I made a prior comment about this and someone said not all men. So I wanna preface by saying yea it’s not all men but this is what I experienced. I gave dating apps a try after a friend told me I should try and make a profile. Now I don’t really use it so frequently, but I think it’s been a year since I had it. My prompts I believe are pretty normal, and my pictures are too. There’s nothing that I believe would warrant the comments I got. Also I think im rather plain looking, I don’t stick out.. I’m 5’4 and my bmi is ‘normal’
One of them sends me a like and then sends a voice note (not a text based message) calling me a bunch of names and a slur. I report it.
Next one i sent a like, he matched, only to say he’s offended someone unattractive like me would like him.
Another one matches me just to say my hips are so flat he thinks I (am a man) and said it’s not nice to trick people. Which ok what?
Another says my hair line is receding, then the last said i have a punchable face.
I mean after all of this I did take the profile down. But it’s been spread out over a year. It’s not only a bit worrying but I told my friend and she said just to change some of my pictures and stuff. But I don’t want to be on the site anymore. Idk if this is common
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No, I’ve never had this happen. Report and move on. Their behavior says everything about them and absolutely nothing about you. They’re just people who are unhappy in their own lives and enjoy belittling or trolling people.
I have never experienced or heard anything like this tbh. How awful I’m sorry you experienced that from those pieces of trash. I hope it gives you some peace to know that those comments were only made to give them an esteem/ ego boost because they’re clearly miserable. How strange. Out of curiosity what site/app was this?
Wow… disgusting people. I’m shocked. I’ve experienced a lot of aggression on dating apps also. It was always after I rejected someone or said what Uni I’ve finished and what I do for a living. I don’t care about that, those men are mentaly ill, healthy people don’t act like that, no wonder they’re single 😉
It’s the classic negging strategy. I’ve developed a 1 bite rule . Kind of like with dogs, one insult and I block ❌
Yeah, a few times. It usually was nasty sexual stuff that was degrading and usually out of left field when the conversation was going fine.
Idk how else to explain it, but I have learned to not swipe on profiles with certain words and pictures that lead to these kind of conversations.
As a black mixed woman trying to date it’s very prevalent my in very white state location. A lot of guys are conservative and so many have narly stories in the local fb dating groups I’m in.
I’m curious about the slur.
What is your ethnicity if I may ask as that could have something to do with it.
They were awful people. Block them and move on. Don’t let it affect your self-esteem.
Also, please don’t call yourself ‘plain looking.’ What does that even mean? Aren’t we all plain looking, maybe minus 0.00009% of Earth’s population?
What is that saying about wishing you had the confidence (or acting like you do) of a basic ass white dude in society? These men are only this “brave” or audacious because it’s fairly consequence free for them to trash other humans this way online. I feel like online everything (yes even Reddit) was a mistake. Should have enlightened us or given us more tools to navigate our world; Instead it just turned into new ways to bully people or make humans feel worse.