my boyfriend had x and was sending dirty texts and sent a teasing picture to a girl. he claimed it was a 1 time thing out of a moment of feeling super horny and didnt know what came over him, he said he felt guilty right after. he promised to never put our relationship on the line again and to work each day to gain back our trust. it hurt me because through that period, i had nightmares of him cheating and wake up crying to which he would reassure me that he would never. is this cheating? can we move forward from this and work together to build a stronger relationship?
Saw dirty interaction on my boyfriend’s phone. how should i react?
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yeah he cheated on you girl š iām sorry. i donāt think you can or should move forward with a guy whoās willing to hurt you just based off his basal desires :(. itāll hurt but you deserve more <3
Do you feel like itās cheating? Doesnāt matter what people here think itās about how you feel. As for moving past this that is also up to the two of you. Will you ever trust him again? Do you believe this was a one time thing?
Claimed shmaimed! See the Red Flag for what it is!!!!
The thing that makes me mad about this kind of stuff is why didn’t he send you the picture. Why couldn’t he just text dirty things to you. These are the questions that have to be answered if you want to move on. Really, it’s up to you, but I would be very cautious on full-blown trust for a minute if I decided to stay with someone who did that.
Nope don’t cheat, but I understand the power of love and commitment. Now, do I think they SHOULD get through this…prob not. But it’s absolutely possible and I don’t think you should tell OP otherwise.
How this should be handled depends on, did he tell you? Or you went through his phone and found out.!
Sometimes people make honest mistakes like this if you think if he can make up for it then you can move forward but you have to be somewhat sure that he is the one you’d marry after you’ve been in a long relationship.
But if you feel like it hurts more than the love he gives maybe he’s just not trying or you’re overlooking the love because of overthinking the decision is up to you and you’re more honest about your relationship than us giving advice
Just make sure that he is trustable and judge somewhat based on his past like how he responds, reacts, how he’s around other people and more importantly how he’s around other women with you if he gives you attention and puts you in front of other women in his life it’s a good sign but if she puts you somewhat back intentionally this is not good cuz your marry this guy if you choose to be with him (based on my assumption)
Don’t ruin your life based on ifs but if you think he was trusted and didn’t do shit like this then maybe you can move forward with him because guys sometimes do this when they’re really horny and fuck things up because they can’t control their mind and action when they’re horny.
Thanks for reading this
It was a āone time thingā because you only caught him this one time. Guaranteed this is not the first and will bot be the last. This is coning from a manās perspective.
Whether or not he has physically cheated on you is irrelevant. He has proven that he absolutely would if he was given the chance.
Do you think that’s the last time he’ll be horny?
If he’s that weak willed he will slip up again. You can’t trust him.
I think itās important to see things for what they are. If he has had the heart to do this onceā¦ Im sorry but he might do so in the future. Especially if he was reassuring you and simultaneously did this. It is a bad place to be in but I strongly believe once a cheater always a cheater.
I personally hope you have the strength to walk away and will find someone who respects you and is loyal to you.