Saying someone “lit up the room” in memoriam is unoriginal and lazy.

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I swear every time I read a news report or some type of memorial, there’s guaranteed a friend or family member saying “they always lit up the room anywhere they went”. Did you even say that about them when they were alive?

It’s like they can’t come up with anything original and just sounds like something shared around Facebook.

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  2. Ciprich Avatar

    Come up with something original? Is it a fucking competition?

  3. Glittery_WarlockWho Avatar

    I mean, I tried to eat a lightbulb as a child, so I think that if that was said in my obituary it would be somewhat more accurate.

  4. ProtectionContent977 Avatar

    Many do though. You may have not met someone who does light up a room. They exist.

  5. AmeliaLunar Avatar

    Bro, it’s so fake when people just say “they lit up the room” like they copy-pasted it off Facebook. If you didn’t say that when they were alive, don’t act like you just remembered it now.

  6. ResponsibleDuck1984 Avatar

    Most of them are pretty lame. People are in pain and it’s usually rushed. I end up writing them a lot because I’m the more creative person in my family but I am always mortified to go back and read it when my brain is more clear.

  7. Brave_Question5681 Avatar

    Lots of things said about people at funerals are untrue. S/he was a great person, everyone liked, loved, or respected them, they will be missed, yadda yadda yadda. Funerals are for the living 

  8. Informal_Stranger117 Avatar

    Check out Harold Bloom over here critiquing obituaries.

  9. Timely_Dragonfly_526 Avatar

    Public speaking, especially in sad occasions, is filled to the brim with platitudes and cliches. Why you picked on this one in particular I don’t know. It’s not a real problem if it’s true: you don’t have to be “original” or “industrious” when remembering someone.

    I am way more affected negatively by platitudes that are obviously used to cover the fact that you don’t give a fuck about something bad happening, like when politicians say “thoughts and prayers”.

  10. curious-maple-syrup Avatar

    Did you just call someone who is dealing with recent loss and therefore unable to utilise their creative side while grieving… lazy?

    Have some fucking empathy.

  11. pastajewelry Avatar

    Sometimes, people don’t realize the light someone carries until it fizzles out, and they’re left in the dark.

  12. Bibfor_tuna Avatar

    I’ll light up the room alright. When I’m haunting your ass

  13. Careless_Lion_3817 Avatar

    It’s the standard description of every person murdered on Dateline and every addict when they were a kid on Intervention 😜😂

  14. skygigettenova2747 Avatar

    As a fan of murder docs, I too am sick of hearing it. Also, she lived in a sleepy town………

  15. raine_star Avatar

    >Did you even say that about them when they were alive?

    isnt this a cliche complaint about what people say at funerals?

  16. Careless_Lion_3817 Avatar

    All these people mad at bro posting an unpopular opinion on unpopular opinion 💩

  17. PK_RocknRoll Avatar

    Critiquing Obituaries and Memorials is certainly a choice.

  18. Far_Cycle_3432 Avatar

    Yeah people in mourning are usually at their most creative so why are they half assing it those fucking losers.

  19. EmergencyEntrance28 Avatar

    Billions of people have died and had funerals. There is nothing original left to be said.

  20. BigSmokeDaGod Avatar

    I hate when they are like. He was amazing at his job but even a better person. Lol I don’t hate it actually, just when someone dies a lot of the time they are talked like they were the nicest and most amazing person to ever grace earth

  21. Flimsy-Paper42 Avatar

    Extremely down to earth, and VERY funny

  22. Free_Wrangler_7532 Avatar

    What if they literally lit a room on fire (i swear if others have said it this will be a special kind of layered unoriginality)

  23. Ok-Image-5514 Avatar

    The next time you give a eulogy, think of something original, then.

    Otherwise…

  24. Nolongeranalpha Avatar

    My dad was a maintenance guy and changed Halogen bulbs for a large warehouse. He literally Lit up the room.

  25. MochaMellie Avatar

    I mean, sure, it’s common, but it’s not every time. People want to remember the best of people right after they pass. It’ll always be played up a bit because we respect the dead too much to be honest about them