To keep it short, my younger sister has developed covert narcissistic tendencies and sided with my parents when things blew up between me and them. For a few years before all that, she also joined in on lowering my self-esteem. I also said pretty extreme things about her character when I was upset, and I know she feels guilt and stress about it even if she covers it up and acts as if everything is great.
I know my sister isn’t a terrible person. I grew up with her. We both had the misfortune of growing up with terrible parents. I want to “save” my sister before she becomes a full narcissist and lives a miserable life. She is stuck in her life and we both still live with my nparents (Which they like. They never want us to leave because they hate each other even though they pretend they’re in love). I have a chronic illness but am slowly healing.
I plan on helping my sister in whatever way I can, getting close to her again, and then taking her with me when I leave. I believe in her even though I have no belief my parents can change. They’re too far gone.
Has anyone had a similar experience?
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I have tried. He’s 25 turning 26, im 21. I have offered for him to move in with me, more times than I can count. I have sent him posts from this subreddit and he just says “interesting”
I have tried to have heart to hearts with him. He doesn’t see anything wrong with our parents (he knows they have been “slightly” dysfunctional but does think they abused us…) there is nothing more I can do, he’s a lot like our Ndad and honestly, I just pity him. I have tried so many times to save him, he doesn’t want to be saved / doesn’t think he needs to be. It makes me depressed sometimes obviously, but I can’t change his mind.
Mine probably knows he’s the GC, but he never cares. So, there have been some differences since I left home, but we got over it.