At 66 and being widowed for 13 years I have been dating for awhile now. Needless to say at my age the pickings are slimmer than in my youth. Had a couple good runs but an insurmountable issue would eventually rise up and end things.
Cut to last month and a nice, Christian man, widowed for two years asks me out. I too am Christian but of the flaming liberal variety. I am NOT a prude by anyone’s definition. Still, I was hurt deeply by a failed relationship recently and as my husband used to say I want to hurry slowly.
First date goes well. Second date is going well until we get back to his house. We start watch TV. This is a treat for me as cable got way to expensive a couple years ago so no regular TV and no paid streaming services. He even likes similar shows to what I enjoy. Going great. He invites me to snuggle in his double chair and I join him. I’m figuring this will be a bit of a”kissy face/huggy bod” as we called it in my youth.
Next thing I know he’s pushing things beyond where I want to go on a second date. I explain I love sex and that is likely in our near future but I want to make sure we are really compatible first. He slows down then starts up again. I offer to leave because I’m not a tease and I’m just not ready to go there that day. He backs off again.
He goes for a third attempt. He’s dry h*****g me and I am not thrilled. I finally leave. I text him later saying he obviously just wants a physical relationship but I’m looking for a physical relationship as part of an emotional relationship. I then blocked him.
Why? I get being horny. I have a great sex drive and want to find a partner! I’m not seeking marriage, a sugar daddy, or anything unhealthy. I want a person with whom I can have fun in and out of bed.
He complained in my hearing once about his girlfriend prior to breaking it off with her and asking me out. Now I wonder if it wasn’t the same issue. All sex. No relationship.
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You do you! No one says otherwise
He is a man who does not respect other people’s boundaries, they exist in abundance and should be avoided at all cost.
He only cares for his own need and has zero understanding or interest in your comfort – you should be happy you did not proceed, it would most likely have been a highly uncomfortable experience solely designed for his desire to complete.
Ughhh this is so gross! I’m so sorry you had to deal with that. This makes me never want to date. 😪