Hi all,
Seeking some reassurance — I just broke up with someone I loved very much, but in the long run I knew would be incompatible with me on a fundamental level. While they we’re never unkind to me, they just couldn’t be there for me in the ways that I needed despite me communicating this. I am grieving.
Can you ladies share stories of hope after heartache, or on the flipside, lessons learned from staying too long in a relationship that wasn’t sustainable?
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My heartbreak was awful and I honestly can’t believe I made it through, but I did. The unbearable pain became a beautiful transformation. I went to therapy and learned all the hard things of our inner brains. I changed my career, style, and habits. I accomplished more goals in a single year, alone, than I did while I was in the relationship (4 years). I met wonderful new people and tried so many different experiences. I found a wonderful community and my soulmate dog. Rejection is redirection. When one door closes, another one opens.
It’s going to be hard for awhile but it’s so important to let yourself grieve. Truly grieve. Don’t just find a rebound or dive into distractions. Learn the lesson so you don’t repeat it again in the future. It does get better! In time… slowly.. oh, so slowly.. it gets better.
Going through something similar. I have no advice but I wish you the best