One of my best friends (22M) and I (21F) have been secretly seeing each other romantically for the past 5 months. At the end of this month, I’m moving 8 hours away for a new job that will last at least two years.
He treats me incredibly well and has so many great qualities. We’ve had honest conversations about where things might go from here — whether we want to try a long-distance relationship, keep things casual and see each other secretly when I visit, or end the romantic side of our relationship and stay just friends.
The tough part is that I recently got out of a long-term relationship and I’m still figuring out how I feel about jumping into something serious again — especially long-distance. At the same time, I still want to keep seeing him, even if I know that might make things harder in the long run.
I’m feeling really conflicted and would love to hear any advice or thoughts on what might be the best path forward. We’re supposed to talk about it tonight and I want some unbiased advice. What are your thoughts?
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Backup of the post’s body: One of my best friends (22M) and I (21F) have been secretly seeing each other romantically for the past 5 months. At the end of this month, I’m moving 8 hours away for a new job that will last at least two years.
He treats me incredibly well and has so many great qualities. We’ve had honest conversations about where things might go from here — whether we want to try a long-distance relationship, keep things casual and see each other secretly when I visit, or end the romantic side of our relationship and stay just friends.
The tough part is that I recently got out of a long-term relationship and I’m still figuring out how I feel about jumping into something serious again — especially long-distance. At the same time, I still want to keep seeing him, even if I know that might make things harder in the long run.
I’m feeling really conflicted and would love to hear any advice or thoughts on what might be the best path forward. We’re supposed to talk about it tonight and I want some unbiased advice. What are your thoughts?
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If you’re strong and want to make things easier for both of you, and think you’re not emotionally attached to him. I would leave things as friends and end things in good terms so that way you guys can still talk and see each other from time to time with no complications. But if you think you’ll be heartbroken if you end the romantic relationship then you can try. Me, personally I would never do the long distance again because I know myself, but some people are good at it and find it doable. So up to you!
You don’t have to make a decision today but I think it would be wise to focus on your career and personal well being over a new relationship
If it happens, it happens
Why is the relationship secret?