Sending gifts to a birthday party they aren’t attending

r/

Our kids birthday party is this weekend. NMIL and FIL aren’t invited to said party. We invited husbands siblings even though they have sided with his parents.

The eldest sibling texted husband last night to officially state they weren’t coming but the gifts would arrive to our house Friday.

It just rubs me wrong entirely because if anything were ever about the kids like they claim it is, why on earth would they do that?

My husband just responded with “Ok” but part of me just wants to send them back to them. I’m assuming it will be some sort of group gift or his parents will be doing the same thing. I’m sure they all met about it and agreed that’s how they’d handle the party. Because that’s how they do everything. They all talk about it together and then try to tell us that’s how it’s going to be.

And at this point, they’re all mad we won’t fall back in line. I’m so irritated with all of them. This is not the flex they think it is.