Been in a relationship approaching a year. I’m 35M and shes 31F things have been for the most part pretty great. We both have our imperfections and a past as were dating a bit older. Shes well aware of my past and in the beginning asked a lot of questions, I never saw the pint in it and tried to avoid but did tell her psaring her the graphic details. Enough to say I’ve done a lot, I’m a decent looking guy and take care of myself and never had a hard time finding a girlfriend or girl. Shes not the most attractive woman I’ve dated but also not important, I do love her because I think shes a great person and intelligent.

Anyway when all this was coming up in the beginning of us dating i knew she was no angle but would tell me she couldn’t tell me a lot bc it was just so bad. Obviously you tend to then think the worst. I left it alone for months and then one night we were talking about if anything is off limits sexually and she said swinging and swapping. Which was fine by me but also had me thinking if thats what she was referring to months ago. I left it alone and then recentliy i asked for clarification if thats what she was alluding to when she wouldnt tell me. SHe said it wasnt. However here comes the problem, that was all i asked but then she proceeded to tell me that she slept with 4 or 5 diffrent guys in the same day, she dated some guy she really liked that enjoyed fucking in public and they would get caught and then finallly one guy enjoyed pissing in her mouth or on her. So that was a lot to take in to say the least. Like I said I’ve done almost everything but always left out the details to spare her feelings. I’m also not insecure or whatever but it was the way in which she was telling me about specific guys, and likeing them and bsically doing whatever they wanted. She was pretty callous about it and just told me way to much which also was not what I was asking.

So been dating almost a year, she says she wants to get married and im the one but now I dont know how I feel considering the fact that it almost seems like she wants to prove or keep up with what I’ve done, but I’ve never told her specifics or gotten graphic as i never really wanted to talk about it. Just wanted to know if the person I’m considering being with was a swinger or swapping.

This sounds like fiction, but I promise you it isnt. I don’t know what to do or how to even express to her how messed up I thought the whole situation is or was and the over sharing.

Do I break up with her? try to work it out? Any similar experiences and if so what did you do? I’m very confused at this point and would really appreciate some insight or feedback.

TL;DR: (35M) My girlfriend (31F) My girlfriend is a good person but not used to healthy relationships. She has a tendency to overshare and also can get quite nasty. In this case she overshared way too much with the intention of being hurtful, or proving to me shes desirable. I’ve been understanding as much as I can but I think this might have been to much for me. Do I break up with her? Try to talk to her and explain what I feel like is common sense?