An year back in 2024 , I ‘M 26’ matched with a woman in her 40s on Tinder in Delhi and she was openly intersted in hooking up. In the next month I visited her place 4 times, it was all fun, a nwe experience…but coming back from her place and travelling back in metro..made me realize what a hollow act this is. There is just that dick thoughts that drive it. Btw, I do have a good sex life in general. Now an year after, I was thinking of visiting her again just for fun. I know i shouldn’t do it. But i think it’s like smoking a cigarette when feeling low. Not always we get time, to socialize and meet new people and hookup with them . It also takes a lot of time and dating apps seem as waste in that sense too. My dilemma is ..if I am focusing on my passion where i then dont want to go on social places where I meet new people. So , is porn andjerking off better, this hookup situation…or dates on Hinge ( which are also a waste of time and mostly end up in casuals) ? – Until I find ‘the one’ organically .
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I would say do what your heart tells you, if you feel its unhealthy then dont do it, if you want go ahead. Just be greatful of the opportunities you get. Most dont get to experience what you have. And dont cheat/ hurt others for your gain.
Continue on having consensual fun as long as it’s fun. Once it’s no longer fun then stop and find something else to do with your time
Yes. Whatever rocks your boat. Porn addiction has its psychological impact. Fuckboying also has its impact. Knowing when to let go is crucial. But if you are too involved with this lady, then you might struggle to let go when “the one” shows up and you may regret it later.
You just never know, who knows maybe on your way to visit your older woman friend you bump into the love of your life.
I think you’re over-thinking this.
Just enjoy life, if you wanna do it then just do it. Consider the effect of your actions on others and always aim for positive outcomes. If you’re spending too much time having fun instead of ‘grinding’ (in the work/academic sense lol) then maybe dial it back so you’re still working for tomorrow too.
On the flip side, grinding too much is also bad for your health and can have follow-on effects in your personal life.
Tl;dr: stop worrying and enjoy yourself, in balance with commitments.
If you have a good sex life in general, why are you thinking about going back to this past casual sex relationship that requires you to travel to see her? And why are you contemplating porn and masturbation as an alternative to dating and hooking up? That would not help you meet someone organically and get into a true relationship.
My advice is to get off the dating apps and meet people in real world environments. People act differently on apps than in real life. You want to engage with people in real life, where they are more likely to be themselves. They certainly will look more like their true selves, too. Apps are all about filters and looking perfect. Manipulating your looks for a profile on an app is not a great way to start a relationship.
Crazy nonsense. Do what you want stop over analyzing everything.
Get into a real relationship..
It’s called Post Nut Clarity. That’s why you realized it after coming back from her place and not when you were going to her place.
What’s her number bro
You’re 26M. You say that you are looking for “the one”
You better start searching more seriously for “the one” if you care about that. Finding a high quality partner when you get older gets more difficult as more and more of them get taken. Don’t fall for the trap of “having fun” like others have said, it sounds like you’ve already had a lot of fun, and you’re getting close to 30. I’d recommend trying to find a serious relationship, but that’s just me. Considering you’re attractive and charismatic enough to actually get laid, if you’re a good person, you should be able to find someone with enough time.
Suffering from success
Dj Khaled
Keep clapping her cheeks bro , you’ll miss it if you go back to the hub. Be wise.😭
Not wasting your life, you’re enjoying your life. There’s no “the one” bud. We all just find someone you enjoy being around and it leads to love and that leads to everything else.
Was there something wrong with this women that she isn’t a potential option as a life partner? You’ve already made the connection exploring it seems like a reasonable step if you want a long term relationship.