So hi guys first of all sorry for my English. So I need your advice on this one if maybe I’m wrong and if I am please correct me. I „26M“ broke up with my girlfriend „25F“ yesterday after 6,5 years with ups and downs and trying it the second time ( we had broken up once before because of the toxic environment that we had but worked on ourselves and tried it again because we still felt deeply for each other) in our Relationship because I suspect her of being unfaithful.
So it all started on Sunday I had a night shift from 3 pm till 11 pm. She told me that she is going to meet up with a guy friend „25M“ of ours well tbh more of hers because they’ve known each other for years. Because I know him and I’m not the jealous type I told her alright just take care of yourself and if she could keep me on the loop with her whereabouts just for safety and (the guy also drives like a maniac). She said sure and told me she won’t stay for long and she will be at 10/11 pm at Home. She didn’t text me till 10 pm which kind of worried me a bit because we agreed because of safety concerns in our area to keep each other on the loop and I messaged her and asked her if everything is okay, she said yes and that she is still driving around with him and that she is sorry she didn’t text me, to which I replied: „okay, I’m kind of disappointed with your behavior because this is not what we agreed upon“ she just brushed me off with a sorry, let’s talk later. She didn’t message me till 4 am in the Morning and I was just lying in my bed praying and hoping that everything is okay and that she didn’t end up in a car accident or anything.
Then she messaged me and told me that she slept in his car and I just looked flabbergasted at my phone wondering how can that happen and asked her for details regarding their meet up she told me basically they were on a bunch of spots known in our city as romantic/date spots and then she didn’t feel so good and he got her food and this is another part i don’t understand, she didn’t go home but decided to stay with him till 4 am in the morning. After telling me this story I immediately started crying and told her to at least tell me the truth because i haven’t slept the whole night and I’m tired. She said nothing happened and I’m spiraling and everything, gaslighting me with sentences like „It doesn’t matter what I say you won’t believe me anyway.“ I packed up her things in my Appartment and first thing in the morning before going to Uni i left them at the doorstep and i asked her again, did anything happen but she said the same thing again that I won’t believe her and everything. I’ve been crying the whole day since yesterday and I can’t even eat properly. Does someone have advice?
Sorry for the long ass text 😅
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you did the right thing. has she contacted you since?
Lmao man typical unfaithful behaviour trust me, leave her right now. Block, delete, unfriend, talk to a friend about this then pick up a hobby that will better your life like going hard in the gym or a martial art man because IF YOU STAY, HOHOHO LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING. LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING MY BRADA. Unless you don’t mind her coming home with a different smell that she’ll dismiss every now and then.
But I know people that get in this type of situation have a hard time accepting the reality of what is happening because of how devastating it is but she got chowed bro. The whole 9. Yoh, and they looked at a picture of you together and laughed. And came up with an excuse together. While holding hands my dawg eish. With a naughty smirk. Cuddling. While she was writing it in the notes app. I’m sorry my dawg. You gonna be nca boi it happens.
You absolutely made the right call. There are zero explanations for that behavior outside of hooking up. Zero. You deserve better and much respect for closing up shop, that takes courage in a situation like yours.
I’d probably go no contact/block everywhere because I guarantee she thinks she can roll you over with some ridiculous story. Don’t even entertain her. Just start putting your time and effort into exploring all the things you really enjoy and start reforming what todays look like in a healthy way with your new space. It’s been a long time so there will definitely be some adjustment and a lot of sad days but you’ve got this bro.