27M. 2 weeks back, I reconnected with a F(24) I knew from a 3 years back. Found out she was single so I contacted her. She asked me for my numbers, we met up and spent time together 4 days later
It was my birthday on Friday and she came over. We were intimate all day and she professed her love for me (she said “I love you”). Everything was good. I hadn’t seen her until today since my birthday
Today, we weren’t doing much. Just sat in a park. She mentioned that she can’t be with someone who makes less than her and her father’s standard of living for her must be usurped by her partner. I asked “so love isn’t important?” She rephrased what she said but I wasn’t too convinced.
30 min go by and we’re talking about when we were intimate and brings up the fact that the last person before her was only a week prior to me contacting her. She then says that she’s uncomfortable with the fact that I was unprotected with her and the previous girl. Fair point in my opinion!
I try talking to her and she then says she’s upset because she’s the rebound to which I ask “are you trying to make an excuse to leave me?” She gets even more upset because I asked her that
I try to talk about what’s going on, she closes off and chooses not to communicate just saying “I’m fine “. Then keeps saying she wants me to drop her off.
Over text, when I bring up this conversation, she tells me the following: “You aren’t understanding me” (keep in mind I was constantly asking her what’s going on, reassuring her that she isn’t a rebound and telling her I understand why she’s upset) “Why do I feel like you’re gaslighting me?” “That doesn’t make it better” (me writing a paragraph about how I take her seriously and she’s not a rebound)
The way she handled it made me feel like she doesn’t want to continue which isn’t a big deal to me but I’m drained and she’s draining me now too with how she’s talking. I have it easy getting into relationships but keeping them is always tricky for me
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She sounds jealous and uptight. If you feel drained already, it will only get worse lol
Also hard to not think you’re a rebound when a guy hits you up right after he hit someone else up. She probably felt like she was rekindling an old romance, you proved to her she was just a fuck buddy. She was clear she’s expecting a certain lifestyle and probable backtracked when she realized it came off shallow. Also the fact that you are saying you don’t really care about the relationship shows you don’t really care about her. I’d leave her now before you both waste months of being toxic lol You’re going to fuck her up a lot if you keep this going
Yeah I stopped rooting for you two as soon as you said she told you she loves you after a week (it’s a week, right? 10 days? Something like that).
She is bouncing all over, emotionally. I would assume that that sort of behavior is her normal. Is that what you want?
I’d be taking that as a sign that she isn’t a healthy person, and you probably shouldn’t be trying to have a romantic or sexual relationship with her.
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She seems unstable mentally.
Friend. She is all over the fucking place. Not even day to day, which would be bad enough, but in 30 damn minutes and then hour to hour.
You’ve not even been seeing each other a full week. This is wild. Little strange too that your ex was a week before hitting her up. Slow down.