So…
I am a 48 year old widower, was married 30 years. I started dating a lady who is a 49 year old divorcee with three kids from three different dads. We talk and get to know each other over the corse of a month before we go on our first date. By the week of our third date she is all over me and wants sex.
Well she says she is pregnant after our first time together, and she says we need to get married because she doesn’t want to be living in sin.
I don’t know it feels sus to me ?
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That does sound suspicious. It’s also possible that it’s real. I think the way to handle this would to be that after the child is born and a you have a paternity test that it’s on the table to marry her.
It does feel sus. What is sin? Lol
Doesn’t want to be living in sin is hilarious with the past she’s got
Absolutely do not get married. Not saying it is impossible to get pregnant at 49 but the likelihood is a little low, especially after the first time. I’ve worked with a woman 56, welcomes her first and only son however she had been married for 28 years and they had been trying for that entire time.
If this pregnancy is something you would want to have in your life express that, that you want to be there for the child and support him/her. I would personally explain due to the shortness of the relationship you don’t feel comfortable going into marriage, but would want to navigate the relationship and this pregnancy first before making another life altering decision so quickly.
I can tell you as a woman she’s not going to like that, but proceeding with caution is never a bad thing.
go to every appointment you can to confirm for sure she’s pregnant (I had a friend who would actually make a fake ultrasound for abortion $) if the pregnancy is real, get a DNA test at the hospital when they are born. To short of a relationship, with an unplanned pregnancy, protect your peace and be a great dad (if this is all 100% true)
How long was it between you having sex and he missing her period?
Also possible she’s going through perimenopause. I have a friend who at 46 got a positive pregnancy test. Went to the doctor and found out that it’s possible for women to have positive pregnancy tests when going through peri.
You didn’t use protection with someone who’s clearly on the alimony gravy train? Bruh.
Paternity test first. Prenatal can be done pretty well as soon as she’d know she’s pregnant. Get a fucking lawyer on the phone now and start protecting yourself from the leech who’s gunning for you.
very sus. Not impossible to get pregnant at that age but typically not after one time. If she is pregnant, there is a chance that baby won’t live to term. Miscarriage and genetic anomalies inconsistent with life become more common in geriatric pregnancies. Do not plan your life around this news until you are sure it is real.
Advice: if it is fake, run so far away from this person!!!
This screams setup, no one gets pregnant on date one and demands marriage without an agenda. Get a paternity test, protect your peace, and don’t let guilt or charm rush you into a lifelong mistake.
I wonder how many of those other three dads got scammed, LOL
Don’t do anything until that baby is born.
yeah that’s a major red flag. pregnant after one time and already pushing for marriage? definitely trust your gut on this one
It’s a con.
She’s obviously trying to trap you like she did with the first 3 because of some abandonment issues. I would recommend counseling if she is indeed pregnant.
I think you should get a DNA, everything moved to quickly. Does she work, she might just be looking for someone to take care of her little family. I would move very carefully and see all your options.
I would at least get some proof that you’re the father, if she is, in fact, pregnant. Until then, don’t even entertain the thought of getting married
You went and rawdogged her the first time outta the gate?
Pregnancy is unlikely, so dump her for lying.
Taking a pregnancy to full term at that age is challenging. Wait it out.
Three baby daddies. This is the very definition of FAFO
It feels sus because it is sus. You don’t give a clear timeline here. But it usually takes a few weeks to figure out that you’re pregnant. You can also go with her to an OB/GYN appointment when they do the ultrasound it’ll tell you how many weeks as well. And finally if it does lineup, then I would definitely get a paternity test. Do not live with or marry this woman until you know for sure. And even then you may not be compatible. It’s only the third date. You may just need to coparent.
But it sounds like she’s trying to baby trap you possibly with no baby. She wants someone to take care of her and her current kids. I suspect that if you did marry her immediately… in a couple months, she may have a loss of pregnancy and then you’d be stuck with legal battles to separate.
Well, surely you know it only takes one time.
If you don’t want anymore kids, you really should get a vasectomy. I have known women to get pregnant in their late 40s so.
I’ve known of men in their 50s becoming a new father because they didn’t want to get a vasectomy (they trusted the woman to be using BC and that she was even on it).
What’s hysterical is one woman actually told him while they were dating how much she really wanted a child and he made it clear he didn’t but he still didn’t get a vasectomy. well, guess what.
She could just be saying that to get attention, but if she’s not, I would definitely do a paternity test and it can be done while she’s pregnant.
I mean…she says she’s pregnant but have you actually seen a positive test? A scan? It feels a little sketchy..
4th baby daddy good luck
You had sex without protection? Smart.
Baby daddy # 4. Congrats bud
The likelihood of her getting pregnant (without in vitro) at that age would be so slim there would be articles in the newspapers about the miracle pregnancy.
Im guessing she wants a quick marriage then will be telling u she had a miscarriage.
How long ago did u date? Im curious if it was even enough time to know she was pregnant.
Also, up your standards. Her bio should have told you everything you needed to know.
49 yo getting pregnant on the first time having sex? Possible, it seems fishy.