I’m back with another tale of my MIL. I posted before about her trying to buy my whole baby registry, about how she doesn’t communicate with me 1 on 1 (she created a group chat with me and SO), how she’s lied to both SO and I about plans but this one made me laugh so hard last night.
I had my baby last month, this is the first grandchild on the ILs side and I wanted time to heal postpartum before she tries to bring the whole family (6-8 people) into my tiny home (realistically can only have 4 adults in it). When I told her I wanted the minimum 6 weeks for heal pp and get the handle on motherhood before hosting anybody. She took it well then started complaining to my SO who handled it pretty well and shut her down every time she brought it up.
My delivery was went by uncomplicated and I’ve been able to recover quickly I was able to move around (though sore and pain in the crotch) after a less than a week … well fast forward to a few nights ago my church was hosting a potluck game night and I went with my SO and ofc took the baby.
Last night my MIL calls my spouse asking if I left the baby at home… my baby is only a month old. So he told her no the three of us went. Well s see he gets upset because I took the baby to church and she wasn’t the first person to meet the baby. She really thought I was going to stay home or leave the baby at home if I needed to run errands until she decided it was convenient for her to visit in the summer
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She was looking for reasons to argue your decision is invalid.
Kinda just sounds like she’s picking fights over the choices you make…no one reasonably thought you just weren’t going to leave the house surely? She’s just bitter you didn’t actually give in.
It’s well past the time she should have figured out that you and your spouse are baby’s parents and decide where baby will go and who baby will meet. You might want to have your spouse remind her. Once.