After dating a girl for three months we had sex for the first time, it was three weeks ago. She said ” pull your pants down, let me see it” ” I can work with that” I interrupted that she likes big dicks and I’m big enough for her. We had sex two more times so far and she still says “I can work with that” and know randomly says “how’s my big boy doing” in any place like at a restaurant, super market or just strolling around. I’m getting a guy feeling she just wants to get laid and eventually will get tired of me and search for another dick.
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I don’t understand how you got to that conclusion
Odd but maybe ask her why she keeps saying things like that?
She may have had a few experiences with people who liked her saying these things and she’s run with it thinking it’s normal.
I think you won’t find out until you have the conversation. Maybe Don’t go in too defensively so that she opens up to you.
Also make sure you let her know how you feel about her saying stuff like this.
That’s interesting 🥴 but you’re a guy so what’s the problem? Use protection at least she will know what size condom to buy.
It’s not too late to find Jesus who wants you to wait for marriage to have sexual relations. If you did then this wouldn’t be a problem on Reddit. May the Lord keep you, may his light shine upon you and bring you peace.
Sounds to me that she enjoys sex with you. Don’t overthink it, just enjoy the time you have with her.
You’re really reading way too much into a girl trying to make you feel desired who has been with you for three months. If she wanted dick only she wouldn’t be holding out for three months, she would be sleeping with someone else.
Just enjoy it. Average size is the best anyway. If she loves you she loves you
You may be right, she is fetishing your cock over and over again. It is a red flag as it could be a sign she is more into the dick than into you. It is better you talk with her about this and maybe tell her to tone it down with the comments. Be at the look out tho
If you can’t handle it… Then move onto to the next.
Because I would probably bet that you will look back on it and go… Dam… She was fun. I kind of miss that wildness.
She’s horned up for you. If you’re a sexually charged person, you’re likely going to miss that type of energy down the road. Having a partner whose thirsty for you… Tough to find, just saying.
You could try playing back into it, getting into it. My big boy has been missing you type energy. See how that goes. Learn to have fun with it instead of instantly thinking the worst of it.
You’re worried because she likes your dick?
I feel like you’re reading into it too much. You dated her for 3 months before having sex, which was 3 weeks ago, and have had sex twice since. So, how does having sex 3 times in 3 weeks mean that all she wants is to get laid?
Don’t get me wrong, saying “I can work with that” before getting busy, is a bit icky… but I don’t think she means anything but to be quirky and edgy. Lol
Look up CMT for your State. They likely have a list.
Just ask her?
its her go phrase 😂 thats so funny she thinks its hot and youre here doubting over it
Surveys find 85% of women never ever think about name genitals. Draw your own conclusion.
Is your dick in fact big? And if you don’t want that kind of compliment move over so I can get some of that.
Just put it in and go. “Well I guess it’s tight enough.”
Honestly brother I treat my husband like an absolute toy 🤣😭😭 literally constantly talking abt his dick and touching him and he was concerned at first like you but truly it’s a way I show love to him ik that sounds weird but I am very sexually attracted to him.
If she’s still there she’s interested. Don’t worry about silly shit. My wife is a size queen but has never complained. I think she likes me after 30 years.
She’s saying it to make you feel sexually desired and trying to keep things flirty and fun.
Just say, ” Yes, you’ve proven you can indeed work with this so far. Perhaps you should come on over so we can see what you have in store for big boy tonight.”
Just talk to her man, outside of the bedroom. Have a conversation about what you each like or don’t like, and go from there. If those specific phrases bother you, you have to TELL her, or she has no clue wth you like/enjoy/want. Let her know what works for you, and what doesn’t. And while you’re having that conversation, make sure you ask what SHE likes as well. This is all brand new.
Communication is key.
Well, how big is it?
Sounds like she likes you
Just enjoyed. I think she is funny.
She thinks she’s reassuring you and you’re making up reasons to feel insecure about it. How silly is this.
Doesn’t Clevelands.wofe day that to quagmire in an episode?
Im curious to know if any of these commenter are actually women over the age of 25.
OP, if it bugs you, just ask her directly if she sees future with you. This is the kind of conversation you should be having. If thats not what you are looking for, then why stress?
Is this the girl you posted about 35 days ago that the sex was a turn off and you wanted to dump her because of body hair?
If you want to dump her, dump her. You don’t need the internet’s permission.