She slept with my friend

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After saying multiple times that we would stay respectful, mindful and all that through the breakup, and that friends are off limits, which she agreed to, she went and slept with a friend.

Thats the biggest betrayal ive ever felt. The fact she could do that consciously, putting all our common friends in between this mess, and the fact the friend who knew how much she meant to me still slept with her make me want to actually beat the shit out of both of them. Ive never been this angry in my life.

Ive never wanted to fight in my whole life until now. I want to make him hurt the way they made me hurt. I want to make her take responsibility. They didnt even care or said sorry, not a single ounce of respect or care.

This is the most hurt ive felt ever, and I’m so fucking angry

Comments

  1. BourbonGod Avatar

    People will do what’s right by them. You can’t expect more than that.

    This is what helped me really understand that focusing my energy on them (I had my fair share of shit people) reaps no rewards. More-so, it can land you problems with the law.

    However, focusing on yourself can land you in a much better place in 5 years from now, hell, 1 year from now. You’ll meet better people because you will be better yourself. And if not? Better off without them, at least.

  2. Accurate-Control-896 Avatar

    I’m sorry you have to deal with this situation. It hurts to see people don’t respect and value the relationship as much as you might of. It hurts more because it comes from within the circle of trust that you thought you had.

    As much as it hurts it’s better to know, than to be left in the dark, especially if other people know. As much as it may seem like you want to make they pay and feel the hurt you do…. Don’t. It won’t heal the wounds that you are left to deal with. It’s ok to be sad, angry, numb. But let yourself process it. It shows people’s character, values, and loyalty. Don’t stoop to their level. You are better than that. And someone is going to find and truly value you for who you are. You are enough and lack nothing. Hold your head high chief! You have a bright future brotha

  3. HeartAccording5241 Avatar

    Sorry you can’t force her away from people but he should have never slept with her if he was really a friend

  4. No-Inflation8412 Avatar

    Being blunt you can’t control other people but you can control your reaction to them. You need to say to friends you’re incredibly disappointed after the promises made but not surprised it’s happened hence the split and that you’re sad that a friend could do that however you see them both for who they are now and leave it at that. To be honest do you think anyone (friends) will trust either of them now knowing how shady they’ve been. All the men friends will think need to watch him around my girl and the same for the women about her. It’s not good for either of them. Whilst you won’t see an outward reaction to what they did I’m sure as the nose on my face people around them will have questioned their integrity and readjusted how they see them.