She used to whisper that I made her feel things no one ever had.
She’d trace her nails down my spine, kiss my collarbone, and tell me I knew her body better than she did.
That no one had ever looked at her the way I did when she undressed.
That I made her melt — not because I touched her right, but because I saw her.
She’d shake when I whispered against her skin.
She’d lose her breath when I bit her ear and pulled her hips closer.
She once told me, half-laughing, half-moaning, “You ruin me and you know it.”
And maybe that was true.
Because I gave her all of me.
Not just my hands or mouth or attention. I gave her my quiet loyalty. My silly late-night thoughts. My softness that no one else ever got.
We didn’t have labels. But we had late night drives, bare chests against each other, and mornings where our bodies still buzzed with whatever we didn’t dare call love.
Then one day, she just faded out.
Less calls. Less “I miss you.”
Until eventually I realized I wasn’t what she wanted — just something she craved for a while.
But I still hear her voice.
Still feel her fingers down my back in my dreams.
Still wonder how I could make her fall apart… and still not be enough to keep.
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This is beautifully written, and it really captures how complicated and painful it can be to give so much of yourself to someone who doesn’t stay. I’m sorry you had to go through that those feelings of not being enough can linger, but please know that her leaving says more about her path than your worth.
“Misery is wasted on the miserable”
thats a quote which helped me after a heavy breakup. its from Louie Series (Louie CK) .
be happy to have this strong feelings, to be this passionate, cause not everyone experiences these deep emotions ever. the only thing you should be afraid of is “indifference”, thats the day you lost passion for life
Having high sexual compatability with someone sadly doesn’t mean you can see a future with them. I’m sorry you’re heartbroken, but you’ll find someone someday who’s as crazy for you as you were for her.
All these things that were said and felt can be real and true at the time, but like all things, nothing lasts forever.
Having something real for even a moment is more than many. You learned you can make someone feel that way, you can make someone else feel that way too. Maybe they will cherish it more, and make you feel the same.
That’s what happens when there’s no labels, if you don’t lock her down someone who makes her feel those same things will
I relate so hard.
People wanna be locked down. You can feel all the feelings in the world, but until you actually put a label to it. She’s just gonna feel insecure, and then someone’s going to come along. That’s going to make her feel secure and gonna give her a label, and she’s gonna go with that, dude. Security is everything.
This is so beautifully written. My heart is in my throat and I’m holding back tears. You voiced my pain, and I thank you for it.
Use the experience you just learned in your next relationship.
Just know that you were in the relationship with both feet.
Maybe she felt that she was undeserving, or knew she would eventually disappoint you.
Whatever it was, just know that you gave your all. While disappointed and disillusioned, the failed relationship is on her.
This is why I can never get the strength to get into a “go with the flow” kinda thing
You have written it so well
This was beautifully written and so sad, I’m sorry
It sounds like she really liked the was she felt when you desired her.
As a now older woman, I spent a lot of my youth seeking attention and validation from men. The men who turned me on the most were the men who found me the most attractive.
And that’s on me (and probably my daddy issues) and not the men I was with.
Once I grew up a bit, and realized I had lots of things to offer, not just how sexy/hot I was, I found other things attractive in men, not just how they put me on a pedestal.
To be clear about the daddy issues, in case I was not: I wasn’t looking for a daddy, I was looking for love and attention (which I did not get from well, either of my parents really), but I found out quite young that I got that validation from men who were attracted to me. And maybe it helped heal me? But it’s not healthy.
I’m not saying it was the case with your girl, but it might have been. It sounds like the two of you had a great connection, and I suppose you can hold onto that memory, but real love is so much more than just chemistry.
Been there…too many times.
Haunting and beautiful. My chest hurts. I hope you heal and find the right person who can make you feel this way again but more secure ♥️♥️
Is this the same girl you posted about 2 days ago that you ended things with? Or are they different?
Let me be frank, OP, this “ruined me for other men” trope is a temporary thing. A feeling that women might feel at one time but may not in another. We think it is important because of the way this phrase has been used in pornography, mainstream entertainment industry like movies and series, etc. Women are complicated and they need satisfaction from multiple fronts. Sexual compatibility is great to start a relationship but maynot be enough to sustain it. It may sustain some affairs as in the case of an affair the very reason for having one is having a different sexual experience. Since you had no label, nothing to attach her, nothing to commit to, she vanished when she thought she might get something more than just sexual relation from somebody else. There is a possibility that she might have a separate life and you were just a side guy for her. When she had her fill, she vanished. I know it might be tough on you, given your positive sexual experience with her. But you have no other choice but to let go now. And maybe going forward if you want something more, then you need to commit more and maybe for your sake put a label on it. Frankly, I thought since you didn’t put a label on this relationship, I thought you would be casual and would have moved on already.
I feel like I wrote this except, for me, it’d be written from a place of yearning.
This is why people need to lock down the people they want. Sounds like she found you in another man who truly wanted to be with her.
Next time, open your mouth to tell a woman you want her. She’s a painful lesson learned.
Good luck.
Sounds like you liked the sex. Not much in there about who she is as an actual person at all. Dick is abundant, real connection isn’t
It’s hard to even find a sexual partner, let alone one an emotional connection.
AI slop
lul, “she told me i ruined her for other men”… proceeds to write smut, bad smut that involved nothing about her complaining he ruined her for other men.
this is both pathetically fake and pathetically bad.
“I gave her my quiet loyalty”.
the ai marks in grammar combined with the random attempts to sound sexy or imply something was unique. it’s just bad writing that is just off and not quite right.
Like we didn’t have labels, we had late night drives, bare chests against each other.
Also lets pretend it’s real. If you don’t understand that anyone can have sex with you and tell you it’s the best thing ever… and not be telling the truth, then you’re legitimately stupid.
“this is the best orgasm ever”, “i’ve never been this satisfied”, “you fill me up perfectly”, etc, are all things anyone can say in any hook up to sound sexy and make you feel good and aren’t automatically true because they said it.
“My softness no one else ever got.” You are a poet. Beautifully written and proof she lost someone special. I hope you find your person OP. Don’t lose yourself.
“We didn’t have labels” sounds like you didn’t lock her down.
Did you guys even become exclusive or were you FWB?
And you believed her? Time to wake up.
Bro honestly I’ve been there got the girl and it still didn’t last sometimes I wonder if it was where we were in our lives the crazy stress we was under and just being young but you gotta know there’ll be another not just like her won’t fill the gap because no one is going to fill a gap somebody else created just do your best to fill that gap with yourself your life your love and your energy and let someone else make a new gap once that one has filled back up and maybe they’ll stick around to keep it filled but that’s the game of love that’s what makes it so bitter but so sweet because part of it was you didnt know you could have it when you got it but once you lost it it felt like it couldn’t be found again but that’s just because you’re not used to looking for it yet but once you are you’ll feel that fire with other girls and you’ll know what I mean when I say everybody has that fire it’s all about feeling the heat and not getting burnt. There’ll be long nights laid up feeling how tender you are but you’ll always know it was worth getting close enough to be burnt if you always love honestly and live with your heart on your sleeve. Close, but not enough to the point it could be torn out only brought in when your person shows you how low they’re willing to take their flame in order to get closer to you and vice versa. Hope you get it right bro rooting for you
Happens man..things were good for a while until they weren’t. You felt and wanted something else and she felt and wanted something else. 🤷 We have all been there. It will take time but you will move on