I just need to get this out because I’m angry, hurt, and honestly still stunned at how badly I was played.
A few months ago, someone from my past reached out to me. She said she wanted to reconnect and just be friends at first. Cool—I didn’t expect much. But not long after, she started dropping hints about wanting more. Eventually, she told me straight-up that she wanted a relationship with me.
I was cautious but clear: if this is something you want, then show up. Be consistent. Put in effort.
She said she would. Spoiler: she didn’t.
I was the one constantly initiating contact, trying to make plans, checking in. She ignored most of it. When I asked to hang out, I’d get excuses like “I’m doing the washing” or just silence. The only times we actually saw each other were after we’d argued—and it was always tense and awkward.
I kept trying because I genuinely cared. And truthfully? I don’t have many people in my life that I’m that close to. I wanted to believe she meant what she said.
Meanwhile, her ex was constantly around. I didn’t love it, but I didn’t know the full story—until everything blew up.
Turns out, she had been telling her ex she didn’t want anything to do with me in that way, but was still sleeping with me and telling me she wanted a relationship. She was playing both sides. Lying to both of us. And making sure we didn’t talk to each other so the truth wouldn’t come out.
But it did.
Her ex messaged me one day, and we started comparing notes. We had both been told the same lines. We had both been kept in the dark. And we both realised how badly we’d been manipulated.
And what did she do when it started catching up to her?
She blocked me. Told me she wanted nothing to do with “anyone involved.” Ghosted me entirely.
But guess what I found out? The same day she blocked me, she was messaging her ex—apologising and saying she wanted to get back together.
So yeah. She lied. She betrayed both of us. And in the end, she picked the one she could get away with hurting the most.
I don’t even know what hurts more: the fact that she used me emotionally and physically, or the fact that she didn’t even have the decency to admit what she did before cutting me off.
Why is it that every time I try to date someone, they turn out to be an absolute asshole? Is it me? Am I missing something? Because I’m tired of getting burned over and over again.
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TL;DR: She told me she wanted a relationship, but was secretly sleeping with both me and her ex. Lied to us both, ghosted me, then ran back to her ex after getting caught. I feel completely used and betrayed—and I’m starting to wonder if I’m the problem.
Edit to say – AI did write this out because I could not put it into coherent sentences. But this did actually happen in the past week.
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Backup of the post’s body: I just need to get this out because I’m angry, hurt, and honestly still stunned at how badly I was played.
A few months ago, someone from my past reached out to me. She said she wanted to reconnect and just be friends at first. Cool—I didn’t expect much. But not long after, she started dropping hints about wanting more. Eventually, she told me straight-up that she wanted a relationship with me.
I was cautious but clear: if this is something you want, then show up. Be consistent. Put in effort.
She said she would. Spoiler: she didn’t.
I was the one constantly initiating contact, trying to make plans, checking in. She ignored most of it. When I asked to hang out, I’d get excuses like “I’m doing the washing” or just silence. The only times we actually saw each other were after we’d argued—and it was always tense and awkward.
I kept trying because I genuinely cared. And truthfully? I don’t have many people in my life that I’m that close to. I wanted to believe she meant what she said.
Meanwhile, her ex was constantly around. I didn’t love it, but I didn’t know the full story—until everything blew up.
Turns out, she had been telling her ex she didn’t want anything to do with me in that way, but was still sleeping with me and telling me she wanted a relationship. She was playing both sides. Lying to both of us. And making sure we didn’t talk to each other so the truth wouldn’t come out.
But it did.
Her ex messaged me one day, and we started comparing notes. We had both been told the same lines. We had both been kept in the dark. And we both realised how badly we’d been manipulated.
And what did she do when it started catching up to her?
She blocked me. Told me she wanted nothing to do with “anyone involved.” Ghosted me entirely.
But guess what I found out? The same day she blocked me, she was messaging her ex—apologising and saying she wanted to get back together.
So yeah. She lied. She betrayed both of us. And in the end, she picked the one she could get away with hurting the most.
I don’t even know what hurts more: the fact that she used me emotionally and physically, or the fact that she didn’t even have the decency to admit what she did before cutting me off.
Why is it that every time I try to date someone, they turn out to be an absolute asshole? Is it me? Am I missing something? Because I’m tired of getting burned over and over again.
⸻
TL;DR: She told me she wanted a relationship, but was secretly sleeping with both me and her ex. Lied to us both, ghosted me, then ran back to her ex after getting caught. I feel completely used and betrayed—and I’m starting to wonder if I’m the problem.
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She wasn’t playing the field… She was playing for both teams.
I’m sorry for the pain of this situation, but now you can move on and stop wasting your time with this low-quality person.
Be grateful that the trash took itself out. Block her back for when she tries again to worm herself into your life. Then go live your best life. That is the best revenge.
— em dash AI slop.
Block her everywhere and don’t search her out. Heal yourself before getting in another relationship
You laid down your rules to her and when she broke them you didn’t do anything and chose to bury your head in the sand praying things get better.
Lack of accountability that’s your mistake, you live and you learn
Hey OP. It seems like her ex is sticking with her. So in a way, you’re getting your revenge…