I met a girl in college who told me her boyfriend was in his 60’s and they had been dating for a few years. I did the math and they started when she was 14. When she told me she asked me not to be judgemental. so I acted all, oh, that’s cool, to each his own. thinking at the time the issue was she was weird for dating an old man. As an adult i see now she was molested for years. This happened like way way way long ago, many decades. I feel nervous right now typing. I think if I had been true to myself, and not worried about what she would think, I would have said no, that’s fucked up and it would have opened a conversation. I am imposing my older mind on my 19 year old self, so it is glib to say “I should have”.