So there’s this girl I met at work, and she’s married and I respect that but I’m worried if shes gotten attracted to me and misconstrued some of my actions. So I’m on the spectrum, which sort of makes it hard for me to tell when I’m pushing emotional boundaries, and I worry I may have unknowingly pushed some. I really care about our friendship and really don’t want to compromise her marriage because I don’t think of her in that way, but when she’s blushing, smiling incessantly, getting physically too close, following me around, or starring at me like a hawk, it makes me extremely uncomfortable and worried if may have crossed an emotional line. The thing is I’ve started to share some personal things to her over time because I thought I could trust her marriage would block her from getting to close. I may very well be over reacting here but I just can’t help but worry. What should I do?
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Been in your shoes. It is going to suck donkey balls when things get real. You should learn to get some distance and be neutral towards her.
EDIT: This is not your friend. Don’t treat her like one and tell her private things.
Tell her that some of things she’s doing makes you uncomfortable and that you want to have a strictly professional relationship.
Then document the conversation because if you ever need to escalate to HR, then you’ll need this documentation.