She’s missing and I don’t know how I’m supposed to cope. Can someone please help me? How are we supposed to get through this?

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She was reported missing immediately because it was so obvious that something very bad has happened.
She was supposed to graduate from medical school in a few weeks.
They found her shoes and her cellphone near the Oceanside rocks.

They have not found her.

They have sent scuba divers into the ocean.
They are checking CCTV, the entire nation is searching for her and she has just gone missing yesterday.
She is in everyone’s mouths and newstories and so I guess it’s true that everything that can be done is being done but I don’t know what we are supposed to do while we wait.

Has anyone gone through it this?? How do you cope in these days ?

Comments

  1. hotheadnchickn Avatar

    I’m so sorry. Please be gentle with yourself and lean on loved ones. 

  2. nightmareinsouffle Avatar

    I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Please reach out if you need a listening ear.

  3. Emalbi Avatar

    Make sure you’re eating and drinking water – even if it’s the last thing on your mind.

  4. Effective_Pie1312 Avatar

    I’m so sorry. That is devastating and terrifying. I hope you find and recieve answers. In the mean time lean on your community. Talk with others who know what you are going through.

  5. autumnwolfmoon Avatar

    I’m sorry you’re going through this. I can’t offer any advice since I haven’t gone through this, but I know there are organizations for people that went/are going through this. 

  6. Aussiealterego Avatar

    I’m so sorry. I don’t know how to cope with this either. One day, one hour, one minute at a time.

    I’m so sorry for your pain.

  7. Upvotespoodles Avatar

    I think sometimes coping with any unbearable situation means that we do the bare minimum first. Eat, drink, sleep when we can, accept help, avoid making things worse for ourselves, and accept that there’s no satisfaction to be found in taking care of ourselves. We just do it to survive what’s happening.

    It’s easy to let self-care fall by the wayside in lieu of those tremendous things over which we have no control.

    Coping is surviving, right now. Maybe there is a support network for people who go through this?

    Hopefully you get resolution soon, and things turn out in the best possible way.

  8. TwentyfourTacos Avatar

    The grief support subreddit might be a good place to post this.

  9. VoltaicSketchyTeapot Avatar

    I was in a search and rescue group in college when Morgan Harrington went missing.

    Please trust that the local authorities are doing the best they can with the information they have available to them. Unfortunately, abductions are nearly impossible to track without a working cellphone.

  10. emskem Avatar

    I lost a dear friend to a raging river and walked through life in a daze until she was found. The finality of finding them is a different kind of horror. Please take care of yourself and keep talking to whomever you can. 

    When walking through hell, keep walking. You can’t do anything else.

  11. contrarymary24 Avatar

    All you need to do in this moment is breathe. One moment at a time.

  12. fckinfast4 Avatar

    Lots of walks away from the things. Give yourself grace. Stop and listen before reacting. Remember to love the ones around you. I slept a lot during our searching. Start writing down all the things you love and remember about her, the things you want to say to her.

  13. angrygirl65 Avatar

    I’m so sorry. Just try to keep eating and drinking and sleeping until you feel like you can do more.