ive been seeing this guy for almost 7 months now, a bit of backstory we used to work together for about 2 years and during those two years we were friends and went on 2 dates with each other before it kind of fizzled and then we both left that workplace, it had been 1 year and then i reached out on a whim not really expecting much but here we are.
we only see each other maybe once a week or fortnight depending on how busy we are and we don’t communicate in between those times other than to discuss when we are gonna hang out again, this isnt really a bother to me as we are both quite awkward shy people so if we texted in between seeing each other i fear that we wouldn’t have anything to talk about anyways and would prefer in person communication.
so me and him are basically in a relationship? we do everything that you would do in a relationship, EXCEPT HAVE SEX. hes spent the night at mine, he asked me to get a sharehouse with him (i said no because i have pets) he told me he wants to travel with me, all of this but we havent had a conversation about what we are doing, now like ive said we are both quite shy awkward people and i do feel like there have been times hes tried to start the conversation but has backed out.
i do believe he kind of thinks i dont want it because he told me that he had missed me after he went overseas and we didnt see each other for a month and i kind of laughed and didnt say anything back, and i had kissed him on the cheek once and he got excited and said that was so nice of me and when i asked what he meant he deflected and said he was just tired. i do really like him and im so sure that my feelings for him are real at this point and its no longer just infatuation but i dont know, i fear he may be just stringing me on.
TL;DR I’ve been seeing a guy for almost 7 months after reconnecting post-work. We rarely text but spend time together regularly and act like a couple—he’s stayed over, suggested living together, and wants to travel with me. We haven’t defined the relationship, and while I really like him, I worry he might not feel the same or is stringing me along.
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I think you need to talk to him about this. Tell him your concerns. It sounds like a lack of communication about what you want out of the relationship is the real issue here.
Alright, I need to start out by asking what culture are you guys from, because this story makes Amish courtship seem agressive.