I feel ready to start dating again. I still dream of getting married & having children one day. However, I feel like my past might be a complete turn off for many women. I’ve had many sexual experiences with other men. My worst fear is falling in love with a women & being honest about this info all for her to break up with me. That would break me! I’m bi g on communication & honesty and I do want any woman I’m dating to know the truth about my past. At what point do I open up about this?
- Confessions of a 22 year old
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Not upfront unless they ask but you should be honest about your sexual orientation. Maybe like 4-5 dates in and it’s getting serious is when you mention it. I dated a girl with a crazy high body count and I really respect she told me about it as opposed to finding out through mutual friends
I know this anxiety. It won’t play out this way, at least not if you find the right woman.
If I’m asked a direct question, I give a direct answer. I don’t keep secrets.
But also, I let my intuition tell me when is a good time to spill the beans. Anyone can look good on a first date, so you need to wait initially.
But once you feel safe with this person, you will share all of your horrible terrible secrets and they’ll look and say “that’s it?!”. Love is like that.
I hope you find what you’re looking for. You are worthy of love and friendship, even if penis doesn’t scare you. 😉
Why do you feel the need to tell about the past. Bury it and move forward.
Tell her when it became serious.
Don’t do it too early. But don’t drag it, because if she’s not ok with it you will waste your time and be more difficult for you.
I think there’s no shortage of women your age who are prepared to date a bisexual man.
Your business is your business. But you should say that you’re bi.