Hello I’m a 21 yr old female who has a boyfriend he is 24 and I’ve been thinking about breaking up with him cause I haven’t been feeling happy as much I enjoy being with him but I’m not that good looking. And seeing other good looking girls makes me want to just leave him cause he probably does deserve better. When I went out with him I got called old and he told me one time his brother said I look ugly too and if we have kids they’ll be really ugly and it hurts because maybe there right I mean I always thought I was ugly but coming from people actually makes me question that I’m really that ugly. I really don’t deserve to be in a relationship and I don’t know what I’m doing anymore. I hate this is I try to be a happy person but it hurts my feelings just existing I really thought it was gonna be rainbows and butterflies but now that I see it kinda suck.
Should i break up with my boyfriend?
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u don’t need to be prettier to deserve love, you just need to feel safe, valued, and respected. If someone makes you feel ugly or small it’s okay to walk away. u deserve more than pain disguised as love.
Beauty comes from the inside anyways. It’s very ugly what those people said about you.
Also, people get older, wrinkly and grey, if you love someone, they are still the most beautiful person in the world in your eyes.
You deserve someone like that. Someone who sees you as their most beautiful person in the world, because you are you (for example, kind, or funny, or witty, or warm, or strongwilled or whatever. I don’t know you, so I don’t know which ones).
he sounds like a jerk. you deserve to be treated with love and kindness
You need to change the way you think.
You won’t last in any relationship because you’re constantly insecure. This honestly feels like nothing to do with people or what others say, it even has nothing to do with love.
Please dont put this on him and make him look bad, have you ever tried communicating these feelings with him instead?
you deserve someone who builds you up, not makes you question your looks or worth
People don’t deserve better looks…that’s superficial. What is clear here is that your bf has no respect for you, neither does his family. This should not be about breaking up with him so he can find “better” it should be about breaking up with him so you can be better. Get some mental health help and work on accepting & loving yourself before you get into any other relationships.
It sounds like you are more miserable because of your own internal thoughts than anything to do with him.
Honestly, that’s not really fair to him to drag him along with all of that.
I’d break up with him and work on self-confidence for a few years.
This story sounds completely made up
if I was you I’d sit with your bf and explain to him you don’t feel comfortable in our relationship anymore. And don’t doubt yourself; beauty is in the eyes of the beholder,
You deserve to have someone that sees you for you. You deserve to have someone that wants to build a life with you and doesn’t make you uncomfortable in your own body.