I (15F) have been dating this guy (16M) for a little over 2 months now. At first, he seemed really interested in me and can be sweet and funny so I gave it a shot. Unfortunately, I’ve come to learn that he can be childish and emotionally immature. For example, when I was trying to talk about my feelings with him before, I told him I used to cut myself because I was depressed and he said “i stubbed my toe and im not cutting myself.” He also had an argument with his camp roommate because his roommate doesn’t like inappropriate jokes, but my bf does so he kept intentionally “rage baiting” his roommate until he crashed out. Then my bf texted me and thought it was all his roommates fault for being “too sensitive.” Is this red flag behavior and a sign that I should leave him??
Should I break up with my childish bf?
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Yes, those are red flags big ones. You opened up about something serious and painful, and he made a joke out of it. That’s not just immature, it’s incredibly dismissive. His behavior toward his roommate also shows a lack of empathy and respect for others’ boundaries. You deserve someone who takes your feelings seriously and treats people kindly, not someone who mocks pain or stirs up drama for fun. You’re young, and it’s totally okay to walk away from someone who isn’t ready to treat you right.
He’s literally a child…
“He also had an argument with his camp roommate because his roommate doesn’t like inappropriate jokes, but my bf does”
Your boyfriend is an asshole who will treat you like shit.
I would walk away from that, especially if it’s only been 2 months.
Take it from me, I dated a guy who liked to make inappropriate jokes and thought that winding people up was fun. It never got any better, and it turned my family and friends against him when doubled down that it was just a joke.
I had a bf like this when I was 17. It never got better even though I tried explaining things to him about how I was uncomfortable or how his jokes were hurtful in some way. I wish I had broken up with him sooner bc things got worse. His jokes were even more messed up, he was totally cruel at times, and he honestly didn’t seem like the same guy I liked when we first started dating.
Take some time off from dating and then look for someone who matches your energy and personality well. You def deserve better!!
The problem isn’t that he’s childish. He’s 16 and you’re 15. There should be childish things going on.
The problem is, he’s a prick. Your feelings are valid. You being depressed is not the same as stubbing your toe. Making jokes just to make someone uncomfortable is not okay. For these reasons, you should end it.
He’s 16. Of course he’s childish and immature, because he’s still a child.
If you’re not happy with his level of maturity then move on to somebody else. Nobody’s holding you there, making you deal with his personality.
That’s not immature that’s just mean, even a guy his age shouldn’t say those things. He probably has been around some edgy online spaces thinking this is normal, speaking from experience: guys like this will only get worse
Yes please break up immediately. You don’t need a grown baby
He’s very young, and he may grow out of those bad behaviors, but it’ll probably be 10 or 15 years from now, and I don’t think you want to be with someone that long who thinks it’s fun to piss people off and make fun of them for being vulnerable.
Most 16M’s are childish at times. That’s normal.
But he’s more than just childish. He’s inconsiderate, dismissive, and disrespectful.
You should never accept those traits or that treatment from anyone. Congratulations for figuring that out now—a lot of people twice your age haven’t figured it out yet.
Yes, leave him. When someone shows you who they are, believe them, and if you don’t want that in your life, value yourself enough to move on.
As sabrina carpenter would say : Manchild, why you always come running to me.
It’s a huge Red flag if he is not empathic.
You are children
He’ll say he’s teasing or making jokes then say you’re being too sensitive. That’s bullying behaviour and not something you want in an intimate relationship
Yes, in my experience this kind of immaturity doesn’t get better without more than a few people cutting them out of their lives over it first. This kind of childishness tends to keep assuming “it’s okay because —- likes it” just because you stuck around afterwards even if you didn’t actually like it. It is literally better for both you and him if you break up with him and let him know this is why you’re doing it. If he makes it to adulthood without people cutting him out their lives over this behavior then this is going to be the kind of person he is his entire life
(That being said, you aren’t responsible for his personal development so don’t feel pressured to follow my advice unless you feel you are completely safe to do so. We have a very limited view of his behavior on this forum after all. Either way, I’d say you don’t want to be dealing with this the rest of your life.)
Girl if you’re 15 and questioning your relationship the answer is always to break up
He’s 16. He’s acting his age. It’s not forever. Let him be himself. Just have fun.
Yep – bail now.
He’s a kid., and so are you. You can probably find someone who doesn’t irritate you so much.
That said, if you want to engage him, this would be a great opportunity to practice communicating what you need in a way that focuses on his behaviors and not on his personal character. That’s the difference between complaining and criticism. It’s a good skill to have, as well as learning how to not be reactive to foolishness.
I let people do what they will, while keeping true to my values and needs. If we can’t (or don’t want to) meet each other where we are, then NEXT!
By the way, have you tried discussing all this with your parents?
All best wishes!
He’s a child. But acting like an even younger child. Def not mature enough to be dating.
No relationship is gonna be emotionally mature until you and your partner are emotionally mature.
It is almost impossible at 15 or 16.
It is not likely to happen in your 20s.
Emotional maturity comes from experience and learning who you are in relationships.
You’re both children, its expected that childish things will happen.
If youre not feeling it though, cut him loose.
As a man, I’m telling you to be a lesbian. We aren’t worth your time. Much less this dipshit you seem to have fallen afoul of. Dump his ass and do it disrespectfully.
he’s allowed to be a child because you’re children. don’t hold someone to some mythical standard. either you don’t like him anymore, or you do.
he’s literally going to fucking camp.
that’s it.
He’s 16. And he’s a jerk.