today i did some digging and found out my bfs been cheating on me for some time. we’re on vacation right now in japan and tomorrows our last day here, then the next day we take our 13 hour flight home. i’m devastated and i don’t know what to do. today it was so hard to have fun with him cause all i could think about was what i was gonna do. i need to decide whether or not i should confront him tonight (and if it goes badly, have to buy a new plane ticket home for tonight and then go home and pack all my things) or if i should try my absolute best to pretend everything’s fine and wait until we get home to confront him.
should i confront my bfs cheating or enjoy my last day in japan with him?
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Enjoy the last day and then tell him after you left
Enjoy your time in Japan. If he asks if something was wrong you can play it of as being tired from the activities of the vacation. Then when you return home, you can still break up. He was sneaky with you and cheated on you so you can be sneaky with him and don’t have to feel bad about it. Think of what’s best for you right now.
Fight it today, go home alone and have no regrets. There’s no point in pretending everything’s fine when it isn’t
Throw his passport away and get an early taxi to the airport!
Good luck and good riddance!
I don’t even know how you can enjoy the day. Personally I’d ruin it for him too and make him suffer the world’s most awkward plane journey.
I would save this until home otherwise that 13 hour flight will be very awkward but also fuck him for that
Confront ASAP. How can you even enjoy your time there, if you’re with HIM and you got that weight on your chest?
I would spend my last day alone if I was in that prediciment, especially in a far away country which you aren’t likely to visit anytime soon again.
Buy a samurai sword and make sushi
Seems like he could buy you a whole bunch of stuff in duty free first
Enjoy your time in Japan, when you land, take a separate cab and go home alone.
You should abandon him in Japan, the same way he abandoned you in this relationship.
Enjoy your time in Japan, check in on his behalf, make sure you get to travel apart from him
You can break up at home, but you can’t experience japan at home. Try to compartmentalize as best you can. Don’t think about the cheating, just immerse yourself in the trip. It’s just a day. Focus on talking about japan, and not about your relationship or you guys. If he tries to get it on at night, say your stomach hurts or that you’re exhausted from travel.
How did you find out?
you already lost him when he chose to cheat. don’t let him take your last day in Japan too
And then get tested for STDs.
Someone posted the other day about a friend cheating on his girlfriend, and then joining her in Japan. Are you the girlfriend?
Enjoy the last day
It would be really terrible if he misplaced his passport
IF you can hold off, yes, because down the road you will be mad at yourself for missing out on an experience in Japan, but realistically, I don’t know that I could keep my mouth shut being around that person… maybe try to find something that you could do by yourself so that you can try to enjoy the experience, because you shouldn’t have to lose out on that because of his idiot behavior… the break up can happen later. It’s just a matter of if you can ignore it until then…
Throw his passport out and ditch him at the airport
Enjoy your last day – on your own. Pick a few things that you want to do. A little mini bucket list. And then go do them by yourself. Don’t let this man waste your opportunity to experience a different place and culture.
On the plane ride home, spend the time really caring for yourself. Get rest. Eat good food. Make a list of things you want to do in the future.
And then, when you get back home, confront him in a way that lets him know that you already know and a a decision has already been made. The confrontation can’t be to try to save the relationship or to get him to confess. Its simply an informative notification. “I know you’ve been cheating. Its not something I allow in my life. I’ll be moving on.”
And then do it. Move on. Because you deserve better than this.
Tell him when you land at the airport, so, the trip was fun but now you walk your own direction.
Wheeeeew girl you better enjoy your time and i mean ENJOY IT! iykyk. i would wild out.