My fiancé often plays and jokes around with my 6 year old. It’s usually all laughs and giggles, calling each other cute, silly names like “banana” “chicken nugget” and “blueberry muffin” to name a few. But lately my fiancé has started calling my son “nimrod,” and my son seems pretty bothered by it, coming up to me and telling me to “deal with him (my fiancé)” when he calls him that.
In a previous post, I asked what that means and got a few answers regarding what it meant. I did my own research as well. I concluded that in the Bible, it was a skillful hunter, but in today’s society, it basically means someone who is foolish or inept. Knowing this, and not knowing in what context he means it in, it bothers me as well. My son is autistic, very high functioning, still a handful nonetheless, but I don’t ever want my partner to see or feel that way about my son in terms of calling him a nimrod..
So should I confront my fiancé about his name calling my son?
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I think you have a couple of issues here: 1. Just talk to your fiancé – ‘Kid X doesn’t like you calling him Nimrod – please be more gentle and affectionate.’ It’s not negotiable. And 2. any 6 year old coming to his mother and telling her to “deal with him” in reference to another adult is obnoxious at best. You need to negotiate more respect between your fiancé and your son, on both sides. Good luck.
Not confront, just gently talk to him about how it’s not okay.
It’s not okay and imo, verbally abusive. It’s a bullying word. Talk to your fiance but this is a red flag and I would keep a close eye from now on, on how he interacts with your child.
Why are you marrying someone who is verbally abusive towards your child?
Yes. Set the guidelines now. Be firm, no raised voice but serious