I don’t know if this is the right sub to post this but l’ll try. | [20F] and my boyfriend, [20M] have been together for 1.5 years. Recently I have been having some thoughts on ending the relationship. I’m not
“bored”, however that’s the only word I can really use to describe how i’m feeling, he’s so handsome and almost exactly my type on paper, really kind and I can be completely comfortable around him. Recently I have been noticing small things that are bothering me, we are both students so i know money is an issue and that’s not a problem but I have told him before he can ask to go for a picnic and i would be happy but he almost never plans dates, i have told him multiple times and there’s improvement for a while but never for long, although in other aspects (such as getting me flowers and gifts and hanging out generally) I have no complaints. i have my issues too, i hate pda (he loves it), and i don’t compliment him enough at all. I do love him so much and i know he loves me so much which makes this so much harder and i don’t know if i could end things with someone who did nothing wrong, i also don’t want to hurt him like i know it will. i have this thing where when something gets too comfortable i want to escape and do something new and exciting (it’s bad i know and annoying, i wish i didn’t feel this way but i do). I have given it a while and my feelings still have not changed and i really don’t know what to do, on one hand I don’t want to live a life he’s not in, on the other i think i want to be alone for a while, i think im just really scared i will regret it and see him move on without me.
TL;DR: I feel too comfortable and “bored” in this relationship but i do still love him and might regret this and have to see him move on without me.
TL;DR: I feel too comfortable and “bored” in this relationship but i do still love him and might regret this.
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if you even think for a second that you want someone new, find that. don’t wait. don’t hurt yourself and don’t hurt him. living like that is going to tire you and drain you and eventually you will develop and vendetta towards him because you feel like you have to stay. put yourself first, no matter how selfish it may feel.