So I have been chatting with my online match for a few weeks now. We had a date planned recently but after I told my family. They asked me about all the details and basically humiliated me for things I said and pcs I used on my dating profile (e.g., t-shirt and short shorts).
The convo between my match and me was okay until my family hijacked my phone to discuss the date. I tried to stop them, but they got super mad, and were yelling at me. So they basically guided my match to cancel the date.(dinner location was not fancy, but I personally would prefer cfa rather than fancy restaurants). Tho my match said reschedule and I agreed. He hasn’t responded since. I understand if that’s just his way of existing politely. My question if should I explain to him or not? I don’t expect him to understand this bizarre (crazy) situation or change his mind.
TL;DR: chatting with a guy for a while, but date got canceled due to family involvement. Should I explain to him/ texting him one more time?
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You are 40 years old. Why is your family involved in your dating life?
??? Yeah this situation is a mess.i would just move on and not allow your family in your dating life
You need boundaries in place. You are 40 years old and your love life isn’t your family’s business. Stop telling them about this stuff and they won’t be able to make fun and meddle. Stand up for yourself.
You should definitely consider, create, and put into place some very firm boundaries. Perhaps there are some cultural things here(?) but I think you should let the match go, your family and their behavior are huge crimson flags you should not subject someone else to (unless and until you’ve got a titanium spine and serious no-nonsense boundaries), and consider not letting them know your business from this point forward.