Should I leave this relationship due to my husbands lack of patience?

My husband (26)moved here from Europe in the fall of 2024. We began dating, got married, and moved our life to the United States all in the span of three years. I (25)am from the United States but I was an expat living in Europe (Spain). I currently have a really good job that pays me 80k and he is making around 25k. We both hate our jobs. We are two very different people who love each-other and are able to adapt to each other’s differences very much. (We are still working on the AC/ no AC in the house but we are pretty sure we’ll overcome that issue).

At first it was so difficult and we argued a lot trying to adapt to eachother cultural differences and general ways of being. but now we are able to laugh and admire each other for our quirks and differences. He cares for me so much.

Here’s the issue: my husband has always had problems with patience (he admits that it’s something he wants to work on) and it’s causing so much chaos in our life.
Our idea was to move to the United States and see if he could get a job in supply chain management / logistics (he has experience in this field from a company he worked for in spain) but he has not been able to land any job. We wanted to spend five years here working to save up so we can move back to Spain and buy a house.

He received his green card in December…so 8 months ago and that’s when he began applying. I keep telling him that he’s lucky he’s working at TD bank and not a grocery store for his first job in the U.S.

He keeps pressuring me that if he doesn’t find a job by September then he is going to just go home the Spain and look from there. He will randomly apply to random jobs in China, Africa with the ministry to Spain or even back home in Europe without really warning me. I think he’s desperate and tired of applying and getting rejected.

He also constantly complains about the U.S. and does not enjoy living here. He doesn’t make an effort to make friends, go out, exercise, integrate himself with the U.S. because he’s stuck in this mindset that he is only here to work and life is crap here so he would rather just work, focus on me and making me happy, and sleep. He says if he gets a decent job in supply chain management & logistics he will change completely, we will have a home with a dog & he would be ok with being the bread winner while I search for a different job I like more.

I feel like my life is turbulent with him and he is constantly threatening me that if he doesn’t find a job he’s going to leave. The problem is his threats are empty because he hasn’t actually pulled the trigger to leave. Part of me just wants to write him a letter on top of a suit case and tell him. Hey, you have 48 hours to choose if you’re going to quit your job and move back home to Spain or if you are going to be more patient and keep applying to jobs here in the U.S. what should I do?!

TL;DR!

My spanish husband who recently immigrated back home with me to the U.S. is threatening me that if he doesn’t find a job in what he studied by September he will go back home to Spain or start looking in other countries. Our plan was the stay and work in the U.S. for five years to eventually buy a house in Europe. I feel like I’m going crazy and I am losing sleep over his threats. I make 80k and he makes 25k we both hate our jobs. Part of me just wants to write him a letter on top of a suit case and tell him. Hey, you have 48 hours to choose if you’re going to quit your job and move back home to Spain or if you are going to be more patient and keep applying to jobs here in the U.S. what should I do?!