I have a daughter (16F) who missed a concert from a popular band this year, she was fine with it because she’s not a huge fan. But later this year there’s a Travis Scott concert in October and a music festival that was in August or September, that now moved to December. She would like to attend both, the friend she was going to attend the Travis concert with recently acted unfairly towards my daughter so she cut her off.
My daughter is doings GEDs so doesn’t have school for socialising, all her other friends are either busy or can’t afford to go. We live in a very dangerous country, and while she’s been living with me for almost 2 years now, her mother had isolated her for years private and they lived in a small town. We currently live in a big, dangerous city and I don’t let her walk or uber anywhere alone. She also knows there are some parts she can’t go. The Travis concert bothers me because of the astroworld event, but also, considering what occurs at concerts all over the world on top of our country being dangerous. She’s smart. but she really is a gorgeous girl. And she’s not gonna go alone but I am concerned about it.
The music festival in December is in a dangerous area in our city and no one she knows is going there either, but even I would feel uneasy going into that area with a group of people. I’m just not sure. I’d feel bad further limiting her options. I can kind of justify the travis concert in my mind, but the festival is just too dangerous, and I’m not sure.
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Your concerns are totally valid, especially with safety in mind. Maybe you could let her go to the Travis Scott concert with trusted friends and strict rules, but skip the festival if the area feels too risky. It’s all about balancing her freedom with keeping her safe.
You’d be crazy to send her into danger just because the world says teens need concerts to be whole. When the music stops and safety’s not guaranteed no momentary joy is worth the lifelong regret of what could happen.