So I have a pretty close friend that recently told me a family member of hers has been doing some pretty weird stuff to her, like touching her inappropriately. Shes a minor(15), he’s in his 30s, but she doesn’t want to tell anyone, she said she would just stop going over to their house. (Which I highly doubt since she went again today, and he asked when she was coming back) He’s been escalating it and I feel like he’s testing the waters until he can fully take advantage of her and go all the way. I feel like I should tell her mom, but I don’t want to ruin our friendship since she trusted me with this. Keep in mind we do the same sport, so we would see each other frequently.
Should I let someone know?
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I would rather chance losing a friendship if it meant I would be potentially saving my friend from experiencing terrible trauma.
Tell her mom. A 30 year old shouldn’t be hanging out or touching a minor.
ALWAYS report that shit!
Why TF she keep going over there ? Yeah you should tell someone
You’re in an awful position. But let’s be clear about something.
This is no longer just about friendship. This is about protection.
Your friend is being molested by an adult predator and she needs help. He is counting on her silence, and now yours too. Every day you wait she is in danger. Tell a trusted adult.
Tell as she is in physical harm.
He may advance at anytime to a point where she is irreversibly harmed.. Don’t wait get them separated.
When I was 13, my friend confided in me that her dads friend was assaulting her. I couldn’t stop thinking about it for days & I eventually told my mum, who then told hers.
Years later, I gave evidence as a witness in court during his trial-he’s now sitting in prison and on a permanent registry. More importantly though, he couldn’t hurt my friend or anyone else ever again. She thanked me for telling someone who could help.
Moral of the story, you might really help your friend & others you don’t even know about-tell someone.