I was out in line at the club and my friend started talking to some girl, and my friend said it’s my birthday which it is, I’m turning 27 and the girls said in a rude and disgusted voice “you literally look 55” you look like your 55. Ke
eYap in mind I was dressed nice and I didn’t say a word to her and honestly it ruined my night and made me super insecure . Do I look my age?
https://imgur.com/a/jCQwOc0
Should I let this affect me?
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I’d understand why this could get in someone’s head, but honestly I wouldn’t give a shit what a stranger thought of me. Every one of those comments to me would be considered a bullet dodged.
If it really does concern you, find someone you do care about, and ask for their honest opinion.
I can say with some certainty that it won’t take long to forget about this person entirely
I’m 36, since I was about 15 I got told I look 30 pretty constantly, I was the one sent to the liquor store because I never got carded. I did get a “you look about 70” comment once, “you must’ve had a rough life” from work colleagues on my birthday one year. Some people are just rotten dude.
Anyways,.fast forward to now, I’m on the fast track to 40 and I still get told I look 30, but now it’s a compliment. The people that used to say it in a condescending way have aged terribly, if I see them I get told that I’m looking great and that I look much younger than my age.
Usually it’s just small things, I lost some puppy fat, put on some muscle, got a new haircut that suited me, upped my fashion game with well fitted clothes. Unless you have super wrinkly saggy skin which I’m certain you don’t, it’s all things that can be changed, don’t fret.
no, there’s some really rude immature girls at clubs
they usually hang in groups of girls and insult guys
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Screw people commenting appearances. People thought I was 35 when I was 11, now I’m 35 and look 29. And what am I doing with that info? It really means nothing. Happy Birthday, yay!!
It has affected you . And I feel for you.
I wonder what her motivation to say that?
It’s so much easier to be kind.
Actually, being kind improves your health
She was deliberately antagonistic. She wanted to have power over you by killing your mood.
People who do stuff like this are shitty human beings. It can be hard, but somewhere along the way, you need to figure out how to not care about these things. Don’t give shitty humans power over you like that.
Don’t let it affect you. What an absolute bitch.
Could you imagine living with that?!?
I feel for you, and these things will affect most people even when they know it shouldn’t.
That said, something I learned very early is that whenever you hear someone say things like this, the person saying it often lacks mental development and is very insecure; saying whatever they can to get a reaction and get acknowledged in whatever way they can. In the absolute majority of the cases what they say isn’t true even to them, they just need to feel like they had an effect on anything at all.
Source: More or less trust me bro, but 1) Growing up my sister and her friends were these people and I saw how fragile they were outside of it and 2) I was very tall even as a child and I got several of such comments myself, but since I knew damaged goods when I saw it I usually said something brutal back – Not my proudest moments that.
The answer to this question is always ‘No’.
It shouldn’t affect you, but I understand it does. I am like that as well where something like that will be in my head and hard to shake off.
I have gotten better with age, but it still gets the better of me sometime lol.
Wed need to see a photo to see what they are talking about
“Yeah but I’m not a cunt so there’s that”
Dude, this chick is looking for a meal ticket that is never going to arrive. She knows that and decided to drag you down with her sinking ship. She has zero life skills, as proven by her mouth.
You’re 27 and you’re worrying about a comment like that? Especially from some chick you met outside a club. Was she one of those airhead club girls?
Come on dude, start working that IDGAF muscle.
If you’re ever in any kind of situation like that ever again, I wouldn’t even acknowledged the existence of a bitch like that. I would pretend I was deft, and they were invisible. And just look at other women I planned to approach that night.
Personally, you look kind of tall, so assuming they were about average height (5 “3” – 5 “5”) I’d literally just look over them at other girls.
No dude you don’t look anywhere near 55 I would just totally ignore that comment.
You dont look 55. Saw the image. If you lose the moustache and stubble might take off a few years. Cos the image moves its hard to get a close look but id pin you in the late 20s not more than 32, based off that image alone.
You definitely look your age, don’t stress
I don’t know what yourngif says about you other than you feel so ashamed that you don’t want people to see you without getting dizzy.
Yes, you look older, the question is, do you feel older? That’s all that matters.
Also, how old was her? Barely 18?
Contrary to popular opinions, girls can actually be very cruel. She was just out to intentionally try to hurt you
No, you do not look older than your age, you look like you’re in your 20s. There is absolutely no reason for her to have said this to you EXCEPT deliberate malice. That tells you all you needed to know about her, she’s to be avoided.
When I was 23, I got ask by a dumb bitch if I was my older brother’s (25 at the time) mom. Whenever I would tell the story to anyone, they’d just laugh and say she must have been nuts cause I clearly looked my age. Some people are weird like that, just ignore it. You look great btw…
Yes. I’d say you were about 27 if I was guessing. Don’t let people insult you like that. Shoulda told her she looked 75! 😊
“Says the hag!”
I would’ve retaliated. Why didn’t you?
You look like a 20 something year old. That girl needs some glasses and is “literally” toxic
Don’t let a stranger’s opinion affect you. You’re a handsome young guy, I would’ve guessed you around 30, definitely not 55. Source: I’m 50
Happy Birthday!!!
You look your age. That person was high or something 🙂
She’s a mean girl, that’ll catch up to her eventually.
She sounds like a massive loser and a huge asshole. You look like a normal young guy. She seems like a teenager who thinks anyone who doesn’t dress like a kpop star is elderly. You’re good dude. I’m sorry this happened to you.
Brother you look fire. My guess would be 29
You look your age to me.
You’re too old to care this much to be frank with you
She’s an asshole and you shouldn’t care what asshole strangers think.
You look like you are in you mid to late 20s. Certainly not 55. The moustache is cool and stylish.
Not a day over 50.
Very simple, she wasn’t the centre of attention
You don’t look a day over 50.
😄 j/k
She was just being a bitch. Don’t worry about it.
You definitely do not look 55. She’s a jerk. Don’t let it bother you.
She was a jerk. It would’ve been funny if you said.”are you OK?you are hostile , damn”. In like a sort of stunned way like her behavior is as awful as it actually is!
You look great and I would definitely guess 20s if you asked. Don’t worry about what she said, she was just trying to be rude, or maybe she made a joke that landed really poorly.
You in no way look 55. As a totally unknown person to me, I would assume you’re about 25ish.
I wouldn’t dwell on what she said. There’s some people out there that say things that they think will shake someone’s confidence intentionally. Usually those people are internally miserable themselves.
Do NOT let it affect you. She is a bitch. I have told my son (33) his whole life, “consider the source”. If the person is nice, smart, respectable, wise, or someone you’d ask advice from, then it’s OK to listen to them. If they are the opposite, their opinion doesn’t mean sht. Just like that girl.
You look mature not old I would have of guessed 30. I’m 34. And at the airport they made me go thru the child line cause they thought I was under 18. It’s not always fun looking young. 😒
I understand why another persons opinion of you would affect you but honestly WGAF what this persons says. You don’t know her She doesn’t know you. Hopefully your friend had your back and told her she was crazy As you get older you’ll care less what people think. One of the perks of aging 😉
You don’t. In fact you look younger than me, and most people say I look 25, so… forget her. People are stupid. Also, (belated) happy birthday!
You cannot control others perspectives, only your reactions. Don’t take yourself to seriously.
Omg, she was just being a careless bitch. You definitely look like someone in their 20s! Like no question.
It’s hard but try to pretend it didn’t happen and recognize that she is a deeply unhappy person and that’s why she publicly puts strangers down. Only an emotionally immature unhappy person would do that.
You look under 30, don’t worry. She was just mean.
Brother… I quite literally WISH I looked my age. I’m soon to be 33 and I look like a teenager. Even with my tattoos and gauges. I get carded everywhere, every time no matter who I’m with. I would get carded going to rated R movies even. Yeah “it’ll be nice when you’re older and look young” … blah blah blah fuck that. Younger people look older than me and it is depressing. 😂
I’d say you look about 30, which you almost are. That girl was just being a pill, making her insecure self feel better by insulting other people.
You look 25-35. Certainly not 55.
Wtf? Was she 12 to make such a wild assumption? I’d say you look your age.
No, and her comment is definitely not about you. My friends and I used to have a girl that sounds just like this in our friendship group. For some reason around men she would just be so rude without any reason or antagonisation from them. It was actually super uncomfortable, and needless to say we don’t hang out anymore.
You don’t look 55
She’s obviously a cunt, don’t take any notice of her mate.
You look like you’re 27, and handsome at that
you look fine mf dab on the haters dab.
You look 27. You are fine! Quite handsome. Don’t let rude people spoil your mood.