Should I (M24) confront her (F20) or wait for her to open-up?

Hi,

I (24M) met this girl (20F) last summer who had just started at my job, while on my side, I was leaving two weeks later. She initiated the thing by messaging me to check in as I had been sick for a few days, and gradually, she suggested going for a drink. She had only been in the city for a few months and didn’t know many people.

We started seeing each other, often, very often, up to 5 times a week. Dinner together, bars, clubs… I must point out that she told me right from the start that she had been in a long distance relationship for almost two years. She was only seeing her boyfriend once or twice a month, and even less during this period since he was studying.
However, this didn’t stop me from getting attached and catching feelings. On her side, she didn’t put up any barriers either. She would give me nicknames, send me photos often, be tactile when we went out, would let me kiss her forehead. We’d often end up at her place in the evening, and it was always long hugs to say goodbye. It was basically “emotionally cheating”.

Several weeks passed, and one evening, she called me after work, explaining that her boyfriend had broken up with her, and she wanted to see me. I spent the night at her place. The next day, they saw each other and reconciled (this had happened once before when they used to live together, so it wasn’t the first time things weren’t working out for them).

That night I messaged her and admitted that I had become attached and told her that I preferred to end things and have no more contact. During this time, she was checking my social media, liking my stories, and less than two weeks later, she came back to me.. I fell back into it and we kept going on for weeks again.

Several weeks later, I told her again that we couldn’t continue doing this forever. We saw each other later that week to discuss “one last time.” In short, she told me that I was the right person for her, that it wasn’t the case with her boyfriend, but that “it was what it was.” She even told me that she talked about it to her bestfriend and that he was on my side (she wouldn’t even talk about it with her if she had no feelings right?). As usual, I drove her home, we had a big hug, and said goodbye. When I got home, I saw that she had blocked me on social media (where we communicate 100% of the time), and I thought this time it was it.

Only a few days passed, and I noticed that I had been unblocked already. Anyway, I did nothing about it, and a few weeks went by. I also noticed that one evening during this time, she sent me a message on social media but deleted it before I could read it (she had this stupid habit). One day, needing to buy a gift for a friend, I went to the store where she worked. I knew her work schedule and knew she was supposed to be off, so I went there with a friend (I obviously hoped to run into her, but I was afraid of the result). Of course, she was there. She was at the checkout but my friend told me that she kept staring at me. When I reached the checkout, she was left speechless, trembling. Her first question was whether the friend I was with was my girlfriend. She told me she misses me, a lot, I said I missed her too, and we left it at that.
She called me an hour later, explaining that she fainted (she tends to get anxious or cry easily). I told her I was here for her if she needed, she said she didn’t want to hurt me, but well she had me under her grasp again. That night we had a call for like 3 hours and she would say weird things, like we’d be married in a few years lmao.

From there, we started seeing each other often again, before it became kind of chaotic and toxic. We’d see each other for a few weeks, then she would block me again after a discussion about feelings. I or she’d come back a few days later, sometimes sending me on the verge of crying voice messages. And so it continued, until September, one evening when I had enough and stopped responding. A month went by, I sometimes saw her writing to me and then deleting it.
In October, I decided to visit her at her store to talk and suggested we meet that evening, and she agreed. It only lasted an hour at most. She explained that we couldn’t see each other anymore because of her boyfriend (I understood he didn’t want her to see me anymore). She was quite cold. When I got home, she had blocked me everywhere, including my number.

Until February. Late one night, she sent me a request on Instagram. A bit shocked and not knowing how to react because it had been almost 4 months of no contact, I didn’t deal with it immediately. I saw that she had also unblocked my number. The next day, in the afternoon, she had already stepped back, and the request was gone and I was blocked again on the gram, but not my number. I sent her a rather blunt message asking why she acted like that. No reply.
I decided to call her one evening, two weeks later. She sounded surprised to hear my voice and said she thought it was a spam as if she didn’t have my contact anymore (obviously an excuse as it was late in the night, no spams call at that time). She probably had my number removed because of her boyfriend though. Anyway I asked why she had done that a few weeks earlier. She claimed that she just wanted to see what I was up to but didn’t mean to follow me, and that she had no choice but to follow when you unblock someone (I checked and that’s not the case, an excuse again).
She added that it wasn’t as simple as just moving on and forgetting us, but she “couldn’t” do otherwise. She asked me how was I but I was frustrated and told her that, in that case, there was nothing more to say, and we said goodbye. I was blocked again an hour later.

Fast forward to last month, she unblocked my number, again and visited my LinkedIn (which notified me). I was on vacation for two weeks so I was a bit active on socials and I also noticed she was stalking me for a week with a secondary account that she has. I’m aware of that account as she had told me about it in the past, so she knows I see her unless she doesn’t remember but I’m pretty sure she does.

I texted her 3 days ago to understand what was going on. She said she was happy to hear from me, super happy that I was fine. I asked if she was fine as well and she said she’s trying, implying she’s not. I told her she could speak to me if needed. She said she knew but she couldn’t speak to me, and asked me to take care. I told her I understood, thinking the conversation was done and then she asked if I was still living here, somehow. So even here she acts kinda cold but shows interest..

So well here I am, confused. I really like her but I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t know what she expects from me at the moment. I’m pretty sure she’d like to talk but she still cannot because of her BF.
Should I confront her or just be gentle so she can open-up?

Anyway, thanks to those who read, sorry about my english and the wall of text, I guess I needed to rant and wanted to give as much details as possible to have honest opinions.

TL;DR:

I (24M) developed feelings for a girl (20F) I met at work. We immediatly bonded and kept seeing each other a lot. She was affectionate and emotionally involved, but is in a long-distance relationship. Despite repeatedly breaking things off, I kept falling back into the situation. Our interactions eventually became emotionally chaotic, with her blocking and unblocking me. Finally, she told me we couldn’t continue because of her boyfriend.
Months later, she sent me a social media request, but what she said didn’t make sense. She admitted she struggles moving on, and left me frustrated blocking me again.
Last month, she unblocked my number and came back stalking me with an account I’m aware of, and suddenly stopped. I texted her 3 days ago, she told me she cannot speak to me but still shows interest.
I’m confused and now wondering what’s the meaning of her actions and how to act as I still like her much and am unable to ignore her and move forward.