So my boyfriend (25M) of 6 years suddenly told me he was “single”. I (27 F) know we’ve been arguing a lot and having 2 children (age 1 & 2) has put a lot of strain on our relationship.
He does provide all the financial support of us. I stay home and watch the kids. But one day he suddenly told me he was “single”. I decided to move back to my moms. It was a matter of 2 weeks and he already had hickeys on his neck.
I cried a lot wondering if I should throw away my family and just be a single mom. Get back to work and have my kids in daycare.
Another part of me wants my family back but my blood boils at the thought of what he did to me and our “family”.
He now begs me to take him back. Tells me he’ll take me out on dates more, tells me how much he loves me. But it seems like it’s just he found out the grass wasn’t greener on the other side.
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I’m really torn. I really need advice maybe from someone else’s perspective?
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Babe… You can’t fix a man who left you and your kids. I wouldn’t even speak to him, let your lawyer do it.
You are not an “option” that someone can just come back to.
Let him go, OP. And never depend on another man financially. The three emotional pillars to a healthy relationship are love, trust and safety. He has violated all of those and statistics show that once they cheat they will do it again. He lacks a moral code. Cheating is not a mistake but a series of intentional choices he made. At the very least separate for a year, get on your feet and get a job and know that if he does do it again you’ll be okay.
ETA: You’re not throwing away your family. You have two beautiful children. You’re just getting rid of someone who’s not interested in preserving it.