Should I question my sexuality?

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I am straight but I have been lately seeing femboys hot and have been watching femboy porn to. This is all because I have a femboy friend and we two used to always flirt with each other jokingly but lately it feels like deep down I actually mean it when I flirt with him. I am not 100% sure tho

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  1. eveningwindowed Avatar

    I think it’s good to question most things

  2. MakingaJessinmyPants Avatar

    It sounds like you already are…?

  3. doubleudeaffie Avatar

    If you put yourself at 10/10 on the hetero scale I would question that more than your attraction to a feminine guy.

  4. DonaldCumz Avatar

    If you feel that the question is important and will help you understand yourself better then yes, it is YOUR sexuality, you have every right.

  5. d20_dude Avatar

    You already are questioning your sexuality, and that’s absolutely OK.

  6. Slappytrader Avatar

    Idk how sus are they?

  7. MrIdiotPigeon Avatar

    Labels are only useful for other people to define you, so that other people can know who you are and what you are into or not.

    But when thinking about yourself they are pretty useless, you are who you are and you like what you like.
    And finding out what exactly that is, is kinda part of the fun tbh.

    Unless for some reason you have some negative feelings about this?

  8. scracth_the_sloth Avatar

    The fact that your asking people if you should sounds like you are.

  9. UnhingedDaddy Avatar

    Just figure it out. Play around a little bit. I’m straight but if I had those feelings, I’d explore them but I got an addiction to tig ol bittys on women in their 20s so that’s an issue itself.

  10. BoatyMcBoatface1980 Avatar

    I mean, there’s really no question.

  11. cantswimbutfish Avatar

    Sounds like you should explore yourself more, figure out what you like and don’t like! Most people go through this at some point

  12. complex445 Avatar

    There is nothing with exploring bro , if you feel it then go for it slowly if it is your thing then there is nothing wrong with liking women and femboys or whatever , what matters is that you are a good person and be kind to everyone

  13. Happy-Go-Lucky287 Avatar

    Do you have reason to?

  14. IamREBELoe Avatar

    No. You are in Reddit. Everyone else will do that for you.

    Honestly, tho, quit trying to find a label for yourself.

    And know that whatever you watch to get off will create a pavlovian response.

  15. Equivalent-Pie-7148 Avatar

    Be a scientist about it & run an experiment.

    Hypothesis: You are (straight/not straight) (whatever you choose it to be, idc)

    Gather Data: Have sex with your femboy friend and record how you feel about it. Have sex a few more times to gather a large data set.

    Create Claim: If you didn’t enjoy it most of the time, then you are probably straight, if you enjoyed it most of the time, you are probably not straight.

  16. Psymanbee Avatar

    Go with the flow. If you like this guy, or femboys in general, what’s the harm in playing around. If you get to the point where it gets sexual, and you find it uncomfortable, for god sakes tell your partner. Don’t just get up and say “Ah hell naw”. Talk through it, he may be able to persuade you, or ease you back into play.

  17. OutlandishnessOk6696 Avatar

    If you watch femboy porn you aren’t straight

  18. PoopTransplant Avatar

    If you get hard from them, that’s your bodies response to being attracted to them. 

  19. No_Salad_68 Avatar

    I don’t know if question is the right word. Explore maybe? It can be good to try different things with different people snd see what you enjoy.

  20. screenaholic Avatar

    As Socrates taught us, we should question everything.

    In regards to your sexuality specifically, it sounds like you’re definitely into dudes. If you’re also into chicks, you’re most likely bi, or some variation there of. Welcome to the club.

  21. Despair_Cash_Space Avatar

    Honestly i’m glad people are realising that liking femboys is gay and that’s okay 😀

  22. Hella_Wieners Avatar

    You’re a little gay. No big deal, dude.

  23. 99thLuftballon Avatar

    Your sexuality isn’t a contract that you have to sign and is legally binding.

    If you’re feeling a bit gay and want to bang some dudes, just go for it.

    If you don’t like it, you don’t have to do it again. You’re not signed up for life.

  24. ChikenCherryCola Avatar

    You should do whatever you want. Like generally speaking, you might be onto something. On the other hand, you also sound like a teenager and probably have no experience with the world. What you will come to find is growing older is sort of like walking around a dark room stubbing your toes on stuff. Your identity, you sexuality, your opinions and stuff are all in flux and really they are going to stay in flux for the rest of your life. You kind of have to strike the balance between keeping an open mind but also staying safe.

    If you are feeling curious, you should try stuff out. You could be gay or bi, these aren’t like clubs or anything. You might think you’re gay or bi now and realize you’re straight and it’s like whatever. Keep an eye out for yourself, use safe sex practices, come to grips with your need for stuff like a roof over your head and the potential need to appease perhaps intolerant parents in the short term. Its one thing to explore yourself, but you gotta keep your hands on the steering wheel while you do that ya know? Never be ashamed of yourself, but sort of stay aware of your current circumstances, your desires, and always have a plan for how you get from where you are to where you want to be. This is just growing up stuff, whether or not you are queer all of this stuff remains true, although with queerness there are added systemic discrimination burdens that you need to be ready for. Be yourself, but also be prepared.

  25. _TrailBlaze Avatar

    I mean it sounds like you are questioning it which is fine. But it sounds like you could possibly have a porn addiction, which isn’t.

  26. Trick-Interaction396 Avatar

    Sexuality isn’t like picking teams. Just do what you want. It doesn’t mean you’re this or that.

  27. Notably_VHS Avatar

    gynosexual: attracted to feminine things, doesn’t matter the gender

  28. PiviTheGreat Avatar

    Have you tried having sex with a femboy? Its on thing to fantasize but once your in the hotseat youll see for sure if your cock is willing.

    Just run it, tap that ass.

  29. IGotPermaBanned1 Avatar

    Man, I’m 100% straight but there is something about femboys I can’t let go…

  30. Flashpoint1988 Avatar

    Dude, just do what feels right. Be true to yourself. If you get it on with a dude and decide you’re straight then awesome. If you enjoyed it ans want ti keep seeing men then awesome.

    Do what you have to do to feel happy and comfortable in the one shot you get at life. Don’t ever let anyone else’s beliefs change that.

    Enjoy your life pal x

  31. theorochocz Avatar

    Look, this is a really controversial opiniob, but i really think sexuality can change. I used to be 100% straight, never had attraction fron any man, but one guy, that is my boyfriend now, made me change. He is a femboy and a trans man, so there are quite a few feminine traits that i like. I still can’t really get turned on by imagining myself having sex with someone with a penis, but i started to enjoy gay/femboy content a lot, so i do think my sexuality preferences changes (I really don’t think i just discovered i was bi all along). So, I’d say you may be just starting to become bi, and I can tell from my own experience that dating a femboy is one of the best things ever

  32. MiloAisBroodjeKaas Avatar

    Imo we should question everything, only way to know ourselves better.

    Aint nothing wrong about being gay or bi or something in between. Honestly you don’t even need to label your preferences if you don’t want to, sexuality is fluid after all. Only thing you should do is understand yourself, be true to yourself.

  33. Giorgosmp4-20 Avatar

    Well, you already are. Whether you want to explore that further or not is entirely up to you

  34. MarkoMykolaiv Avatar

    It sounds like you’re already questioning what sexuality you are, and that’s completely okay.

  35. 12PoundTurkey Avatar

    That is kinda how it started for me. I started questioning my sexuality in my thirties and I landed on bi with a strong preference for soft/fem men. Turns out I’m attracted to femineity even in boys.

  36. Haalandinhoe Avatar

    You’re bisexual, end of discussion. Nothing else to question.

  37. T3ddyBeast Avatar

    Stop watching it and you will be less attracted to it. How do you think people develop a attraction to violence and gore, it wasn’t sudden, it was nurtured and cultivated.

  38. TheMaskedHamster Avatar

    You’re wondering if you’re straight man when the only time you wonder if you’re not is if it involves someone who looks like a woman?

  39. RobotCGB Avatar

    It looks like you already are questioning your sexuality, but it doesn’t have to be a “switch” makes you say “okay, now I’m not straight” or “not, definitely im straight”. If flirt is funny, but nothing else: nice. If going a bit further feels good: nice

  40. Shamezone Avatar

    It’s really scary to grow, i was “straight” most of my life, but repression just makes it worse, life is wonderful and it’s a shame not to give yourself a chance to be happy

  41. SillyBananaPeel09 Avatar

    It is possible he is your friend and you have feelings for them. But you should explore outside.

  42. Rootsyl Avatar

    Femboys are female with added spiciness. Unless you like men more than women in general, you are straight.

  43. swivel2369 Avatar

    Question everything

  44. Revolutionary-One-11 Avatar

    femboys arent gay bro you’re good

  45. zackattack2020 Avatar

    I’ll come from experience. I had a phase where I joked with friends and played “gay chicken” this was also a time where I didn’t get romantic attraction from women. I had a very sexually active friend as well. Those all played a part in me questioning. I questioned until it wasn’t a fantasy anymore it was a thing that could happen. It’s different when it’s real. From that my advise is try it, know your comfort level and sometimes it’s better as fantasy.

    And if you like it play the Zelda music because new sexuality discovered.

  46. Nearby-Distribution1 Avatar

    What’s the worst that can happen? You have feelings and questions, start looking for answers. Worst case scenario you’ll end up frenching your friend
    , decide that you don’t like it and go back to the relationship you used to have, but with your questions answered ? Sex isn’t gross, homosexuality isn’t gross, you have the right to explore your sexuality and make an informed decision once you know for sure if you’re straight or not.

  47. UrPicksRTrash Avatar

    Femboys look like chicks tho

  48. Skenar Avatar

    Gooner subreddit welcomes you with open arms

  49. Resident-Gear2309 Avatar

    You know what I hate having to label yourself under some kind of sexuality! Do what you want when you feel like it, if you follow a vegan diet does that absolutely mean you can never have a steak again? Fucking labels! 😂

  50. DrWanksalot Avatar

    Be yourself. Don’t live with regrets.

  51. Alternative_Lime_13 Avatar

    Do you want to label your sexuality?

    Like what you like and just be you.

  52. Positive-Emergency14 Avatar

    My best friend makes me question mine all the time 😂

  53. Lactavious Avatar

    You sound bi to me.

  54. Environmental-Day778 Avatar

    Should you? No. Nobody should slap labels on their sexuality due to some external imperative.

    Could you? Of course! If you wanna find out more about yourself. Why not?

  55. theboomboy Avatar

    I think it’s always good to explore these things, at least in your mind

  56. SylentSymphonies Avatar

    Listen. Art isn’t the canvas, it’s what’s painted onto it. There is nothing gay about appreciating the female form.

    Anyway, you’re bisexual.

  57. Rifampin_ Avatar

    Check out r/bisexual if you’d like. Nothing wrong with questioning, lots of questions like this come up often in there. Ultimately, it’s your life – like who you wanna like, label or no label. I wish I had accepted that fact about myself years ago

  58. padmaclynne Avatar

    in my opinion literally everyone should question their gender and sexuality. self examination without judgement may be your path to happiness.

  59. CrimsonDemon0 Avatar

    That really depends on you. Unless you think you might hate the answer I dont see why you ahouldnt question it

  60. Adventurous_Topic202 Avatar

    It’s ok to be gay dude.

    Femboys are sexy as hell.

  61. Alienaffe2 Avatar

    The nice thing with LGBTQIA+ and stuff is that it isn’t hard rules, but more something that can help find your own self. As an example. Just because you’re attracted to men and women doesn’t mean you need to call yourself bi or whatever. You technically are, but you can also just call yourself straight or gay if you don’t want to be in a relationship with the one gender currently, even though you feel attracted to that gender.

    Also. Just because you like stuff on the internet doesn’t mean you like that stuff in real life. Doesn’t 100% apply to your situation, but always something to remember.

  62. Willtexas1 Avatar

    Like what you like man😭😭

  63. Sure-Setting-8256 Avatar

    It’s ok to explore, if you like it you like it innit? I’ve questioned my sexuality for years before solidly realising I’m straight,tho I am demi too

  64. Piratenika Avatar

    I got news for you

  65. Munkiepause Avatar

    I don’t understand why everyone feels the need to parse out, define and label their sexuality. It’s not that complicated. Maybe you’re just attracted to this person. It’s doesn’t mean you need a new label for yourself.

  66. OkAdhesiveness330 Avatar

    If you’re gay, you’re gay little homie. No big deal it’s 2025 lol. Do what makes u happy. Nothing to question.

  67. The_Baron___ Avatar

    I am not gay, but every quarter I’ll have sex with a man just to be absolutely sure. Otherwise, how do you know you’re straight, you know?

    To be serious, most of these types of things are mental hang-ups that you will get over as you get older, and realize that so long as you are in a major city in a functioning democracy you are safe to explore and opt in or out of whatever you feel.

    If you are in the United States or other dysfunctional democracy you might be better off with the fantasy than actually risking experimenting, but if you are in Canada or Northern Europe you can always go on a date with someone from a dating app and see how you feel. I’m not sure I would explore with a friend just in case, but that depends on your relationship with them.

  68. Dismal_Community7891 Avatar

    That’s your call .

  69. HxHTGOP95 Avatar

    If you enjoy femboy porn, you might be bisexual. I wouldn’t tell my friend about my feelings but asking more about femboys might be away of feeling the waters and getting closer.

  70. edotman Avatar

    Sounds pretty gay bro

  71. PoopDick420ShitCock Avatar

    You should question everything, brother

  72. Akos_D_Fjoal Avatar

    This tiktok has never applied more. Be nice to your homies in high school… https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTjL8mhJh/

  73. BubatzAhoi Avatar

    Yes you might be gay or at least bi and theres nothing to worry about. Love who you want

  74. Raven_Knightx Avatar

    Does it matter to you? Like, do actually care if you’re gay? If you wanna find out if your feelings are genuine, do something dangerous, like bungee jumping or skydiving, and if you think, “damn, I didn’t tell him I liked him before I die rn” then you should prolly tell him. Just, you know, don’t die. 

    Or just be a forest hermit or something idk

  75. XxSimplySuperiorxX Avatar

    If you are actually flirting you are past just questioning

  76. DickMuhslitsum Avatar

    Is your name Howard Stern by chance?

  77. Zestyclose_Poet_82 Avatar

    Nah, just flow with it. Nothing is set in stone. If you want vanilla today you might want rocky road tomorrow. Have whatever you want, whenever you want. No question, only ice cream.

  78. SimFlixAndChill Avatar

    Does the thought of a big juicy peen in your mouth sound fun? If so, yes

  79. Pan_archist33 Avatar

    Always question everything in life until you are 100% sure!

  80. n0k23 Avatar

    Just try it. If you like it, you like it. If not, you don’t. It’s 2025 my guy and the line between being homosexual and heterosexual are extremely blurred anymore ..

  81. InYeBooty Avatar

    Bro who gives a fuck what anybody else thinks. Be curious. Explore. Try things. It is literally the only way you’re going to find out if you like it or not. Have fun, be safe.

  82. ChilletAndNetflix Avatar

    You sound like you are into femboys. However, do not experiment with people to figure that out!

  83. Journo_Jimbo Avatar

    Sexuality is fluid, just go with what feels right at the time and don’t worry about what others think

  84. human_not_alien Avatar

    Bro you can be gay it’s okay

  85. UmbraDarksoul Avatar

    You could also just be bi/pansexual! There’s nothing wrong with that.

  86. deargod42 Avatar

    Hedonism! Just accept it and move on bro

  87. I_love_pillows Avatar

    Sexuality is a spectrum.