Should i say something when i notice my kids who have different complexions being treated differently?

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I have a 3 year old son(B) and a 1.5 year old son (G). B has beautiful dark skin with the biggest beautiful brown eyes i have ever seen. G has a pretty light caramel color complexion with beautiful hazel green/light brown eyes. He was actually born with blue eyes. My husband and i are more caramel complexion and we both have dark down eyes. I think G’s eyes come from my FIL, almost his whole family has the same eyes.. I noticed that some people would make comments about my sons different appearance. One person suggested that B should get lighter. They will gush over G and his eyes and act like they could not believe that a black child could have these eyes especially when he was an infant bc they were blue! I noticed that G tends to get more attention and compliments about his appearance. I find myself feeling a need to overcompensate for B. I feel like i need to hype him up not just because of the attention G gets but i really do find his skin and eyes breathtaking too. But i feel like i might be drawing more attention to it and idnt want my kids thinking that i feel that either are less than. I love that black people come in all different shades and genetics is just amazing but idnt want them to have issues with themselves or eachother…

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  1. jeanismy Avatar

    Who is makigg by the comments? Family member, friends? Does your kids hear them or just you?