Hi guys, I’m 21f and guy is 28m. I think he seems really nice and is a decent person. Hes a firefighter from a really remote area. I don’t know how this came up, we were talking about prior relationships; He just told me he has only had sex 6 individual times in his life and that hes had 4 one night stands in his 20’s and then a girl he saw when he was 18 for a bit but never had a serious gf. I was just really surprised. He just said since hes shy and has just worked with mostly men he hasn’t met girls. Hes a tall, lanky cute blonde guy so I just thought he’d get more girls. I have seen 4 men, 2 of them were like casually dating 2 of that was situationship/fwb. I am not a virgin and i have more experience than he does. Does this even matter? Is it normal hes in his late 20’s and hasn’t really had any relationship experience? Also I just prefer to see older
TL;DR, is it a red flag if a guy who is older has no relationship experience?
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I’m experiencing one of my worst heartbreaks currently with a guy who didn’t have relationship experience. He had to leave to grow into himself and learn from our year of lessons. I feel like I have nobody else to blame but myself. I could’ve predicted this outcome by knowing that he didn’t have the experience of prior relationships and I would possibly be a learning lesson
But men like him are becoming extremely common these days worldwide for reasons still debated. It’s not a red flag and doesn’t necessarily mean there’s anything wrong with him.
Whether you want to date someone like that is your call ultimately.
I’m a late bloomer girl myself, so don’t want to discriminate against my kind. I just find the age gap weird tbh, obviously you’re both consenting adults but 21 and 28 seems like a pretty big difference at this stage.