So me (18) have some weird fetishes that i wanna get rid of
I wanna fix my brain and soul
Those fetishes hurt me
I don’t understand why they are within me
Should i talk to someone like this?
Should I talk to a sex therapist about my problem?
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It’s not really possible to overcome these things, but you can find acceptance. A sex therapist can definitely help with this.
If you don’t like them, then yes. i would recommend to go talk to someone to help you cure these fetishes that you despise since its hard to do by itself.
what kind of “weird” fetishes we talking about here bud? yes see a therapist
A sex therapist can help individuals understand, manage, and potentially reduce the distress caused by fetishes, especially if they are causing problems in a person’s life. Therapy can help individuals explore the origins of their fetishes, learn coping mechanisms, and develop healthier ways of expressing their sexuality. Treatment for compulsive sexual behavior usually involves talk therapy — also called psychotherapy — medicines and self-help groups. The main goal of treatment is to help you manage urges and reduce problem behaviors while still enjoying healthy sexual activities and relationships.
If you have compulsive sexual behavior, you also may need treatment for another mental health condition. People with compulsive sexual behavior often have alcohol or drug use problems or other mental health conditions, such as anxiety or depression, which need treatment.
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Yes, absolutely. Talking to a sex therapist can help you understand and manage those feelings without shame. You don’t have to carry that alone
Just having the thoughts is the beginning stage, unless it affects your personal life, it is just intrusive thoughts,
You searching for the specific fetish does not necessarily mean you want to be cuckolded, maybe you want to cuckold someone.
Just think if you ACTUALLY WANT your partner to be used by another person, or if you WANT to use another guy’s partner.
Pleasure creates paths in the brain that it is difficult to break free from after they have been set. These are like mind chains, they pull you back to where you don’t want to be. Your desire to be free from these things is a great first step, you can try therapy, because sometimes these things come from trauma, so Solving trauma is a good start. Porn does terrible things to our brain, don’t let people here tell you is ok to have and act on things you realize are not ok but can’t seem to break free. There is always a way, sometimes spiritual paths are more helpful as well, if not always.
You have to stop watching porn. Seek help for that, not what you think your “fetishes” are. Seek help to stop porn completely. Then you’ll figure out your real fetishes and desires
You have a shadow self . It’s going to extreme measures to get you to see these things you hate.
It doesn’t mean that is you.
I use to think the violence in my head that would always come as an option was my hidden self wanting to do these things.
It just wants you to do what no one can do.
(We do do it tho)
You have to face these fetishes. And reason them away.
For example you have to rationalize why sex with children is wrong.
The world told you it was wrong, you have a gut feeling it’s wrong and you have to know why.
When I was a child my uncle was a molester.
Tmi,
I know, but my shadow self wanted me to know why he did it.
So when the image came to me and this is rated R.
If you’re a child , don’t read further.
The image came to me of a boy being violated.
I looked deeper…the boy was me.
Not the violator.
This is stuff I tucked away when I heard my uncle was a pedophile
Who molested all 4 of his kids.
I didn’t want to see it.
But to grow I had to do what no one does.
I had to watch it. Then I had to rationalize it.
Then I had to conclude for reasons why it was evil , dark , and twisted.
Then I had to clear my mind , and let go of the past.
Then I became something new.
Someone new.
If you hate these fetishes , you have to understand why they are being brought upon you.
You have to find the you that could be capable of doing those things and slay him.
After putting him on trial .