I have started seeing a woman who is about 15 years older than me, and we had sex recently, and oh my god, just knowing that she was that much older than me made me fuck her like an animal. She was very happy to reciprocate.
My excitement was mostly due to the age gap, I just found it so hot I just let myself lose. I did manage to keep my mouth shut and not mention anything about our age gap during sex though, or at all really. We recognized our age gap and both agreed it’s not a problem.
My question is: Should I even mention this at all? Should I just keep my mouth shut and enjoy this kink in my head.
If you’re curious, I’m 27.
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Yes tell her right away
I’d keep that on the down low for sure. The real question is, does she bring you closer to God?
MEntion it if age comes up in conversation naturally, but dont bring it up otherwise.
I would keep it to yourself.
I think you might get a clearer answer by looking at it from her PoV – what’s her motivation to have sex with you? Is there a chance your younger age is a turn on for her? If yes, I think mentioning it might make her more at ease about it as well.
If you’re unsure though and she never mentioned anything about you being younger, I’d keep it safe and just complimented her on her looks or mentioned that you find it so hot she’s experienced, more straightforward, knows what she wants, etc. Like all the things that are connected with older age, but just without mentioning it.
As long as you can avoid framing it as ‘You’re old as fuck and I like it’. Something more like, ‘I like my woman like I like my wine, aged to perfection.’
Edit: I’m aware how corny the second line is lol just something in that vein is what I’m meaning
You also want to point out her wrinkles?
OP is considering telling his intimate partner that he’s excited by the fact she’s old enough to be his mother. Can’t say I’d be thrilled to hear that from a partner.
I’d not say anything, because the risk of her feeling like she’s just a kink to you, or objectified by it, is considerably higher than her taking it as a compliment. She knows you find her hot, because you’ve had sex together and had a great time. No need to ruin something good. Unless she’s specifically said she finds the fact you’re younger extremely hot, there’s no point risking it.
Keep that one to yourself boss.
I’d worry that she’d be concerned you’re ONLY with her for the age gap, that you’ve fetishized it.
If she brings up anxiety/concern about it. You could totally mention how you love it and she has nothing to worry about.
But I think randomly bringing it up can seem a bit off.
You’re attracted to her attitude/behaviour that she has because of her age and maturity, not her age as a tangible thing.
She obviously realises you like her/her age so there’s no need to really bring up age specifically. Just compliment what you like about her
People generally aren’t big on being fetishized over things they have no control over. So, be chill about it. Tell her you really enjoy how much more mature she is than other women and leave it at that.
As a woman in a similar situation, we already know but sometimes we don’t want it officially acknowledged. Maybe keep it to yourself unless she brings it up
as an older woman, just shut your mouth and enjoy it unless she brings it up.
STFU
Keep it to yourself
“And Here’s to You, Mrs. Robinson….” (Simon and Garfunkel)
“Mrs. Robinson, you’re trying to seduce me… aren’t you?” “Benjamin, I’m not trying to seduce you. Would you like me to seduce you?”
If that’s the only reason you’re together then yes because then it’s not a relationship, it’s fuck buddies
Gross. Dont. Coming from a woman with a younger guy. Please don’t.
tell her w ur D
If you are feeling it, tell her. The truth is the truth. There are no bad or good truths – it’s just….the truth.
She obviously knows it turns you on if you’re fucking her. Don’t say it dude. Or at least wait. Age will inevitably be brought up and you can use that moment to reassure her how turned on your are by her age and experience.
I totally get why you want to tell her but there’s a lot of ways it could be taken poorly and it doesn’t really need to be said/ will get brought up organically if it lasts.
If you DO say it frame it as “I’m so turned on by how experienced you are compared to women I’ve been with”
It comes off better than “I’m so turned on by our age gap” and also conveys what you mean by it more thoroughly with less room for misinterpretation
As much as Redditors try to oppose this, r/AgeGap relationships are more common than you think.
And are perfectly normal.
I understand how hot it is to fuck an older woman. But I’d probably not tell her so she doesn’t think she is just a fetish. But she probably already knows it. So don’t mess things up by bringing it up.
I’m guessing the refractory period is what her turn on is. I’m quite sure she knows she’s hooking up with a much younger man
Tell her that her being older than you is one of the things that you find attractive about her. Make sure she knows the age difference is a positive thing not negative. However it is not the only thing that you find attractive about her.
My guy this sounds like so much fun. Don’t tell her shit