It’s been 10 years that I’ve been with this guy. He started off great and I was absolutely nuts about him. He was my first everything – boyfriend, lover, and first love. He had told me I was his first as well.
As the relationship progressed, the cracks started to show. I caught him sexting. 4 years in, he’s meeting up with other woman telling me he’s at work. 5 years in he tells me he’s had sex with someone before me. 8 years in I find his hard drive; and this is where the whole can of worms are let lose.
I find out he’s been stashing: p3dofyle photos of young girls, upskirt filmed videos of everyone – strangers, coworkers, my family, my own brother’s girlfriend, videos of him cheating on me throughout the relationship, an entire folder of just photos of my mom.
This broke me into a million pieces. I tried to leave but he still forced himself into my life. Wanting some revenge and hoping on hurting him, I enticed a male coworker into having an affair with me.
It’s been an on and off affair since I found the hard drive. I broke up with him in March 2025, but he came back again and begged for forgiveness, saying he’d changed.
I’m not as angry at him as I used to be, we are good together and I do feel this time we could work. He’s come clean about everything and we’ve discussed all the crappy things he’s done. But I haven’t yet come clean. Do I need to tell him especially if we plan on making this work, or this something better left unsaid?
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You should tell the police.
girl forget the affair, why didn’t you report him to the police for those photos
He’s a criminal report him to the police. You are not good together. It doesn’t work. Just coming clean doesn’t make everything ok. Open your eyes.
Report him! That’s not okay in any way!!! Leave him and stay away from him.
Don’t tell him about the affair. Keep it to yourself, just know that people at work will most likely find out.
How can you be good together if he’s a creep? No one can force you to stay with them.
Move forward. You can’t live your life looking in the rearview mirror.
I can help you forget about him. And regarding him, I can do nothing illegal at all I promise 🤞
NO
The minute I see more than one use of “-“, immediately assume this is chatgpt written story
I mean if it’s real and the op wanted to clean up what she wrote then well shit, ur partner is one disgusting human being and tbh after seeing photos of kids, how the hell you chose to stay w him is wild af
Your relationship is over. You’ve reached the point now where you’re doing revenge sex to get back at each other. That’s a clear signal the relationship has run its course.
You’re being delusional. Should have left along time ago. Get out and away like 5 years ago
He didn’t change. He’s a sexual pervert pedo who should be in jail. The hard drive containers c
CSAM and should be given to the police. I cannot stress this enough.
Am I understanding this right? You are getting back with this lying, pdf, serial cheater? Thereby condoning his behaviour. Besides that, you yourself are also a cheater (even if it was as revenge, you could also have really left him)
Sounds like you deserve each other. Eh, I guess it’s better than the two of you messing up more other peoples lives. It would be better if he would go to jail for a while, but I don’t expect you to step up and make that happen.
You’ve got way bigger problems than this cheating mess on both sides. He needs to be turned in for the kid pics
You need to get away from this man and report what you saw to the police
Like yesterday.
What if you had a daughter with that guy someday? You won’t ever be comfortable leaving your little girl with his own father.