There’s this guy (42M) that I (51F) hooked up with a few times two years ago that recently reached out to me again. What I didn’t know this time is that he was also seriously pursuing a different girl (39F) at the same time. (He was extremely graphic and persuasive about his attraction to me.) Long story short, we hooked up again and then he (unsurprisingly) ghosted me. The following week after our hookup, he took the other girl on a vacation to Mexico. Their vacation was obviously already planned when he found me after all of these years, just took hook up with me again (use me) before he took this other girl on a vacation and begin a committed relationship with her. So, should I tell the girlfriend that her now boyfriend found me, pursued me and hooked up with me while also pursuing her and planning a vacation with her? Thoughts?
TL;DR: Guy pursued and hooked up with me while planning a vacation with a different girl who became his gf. Should I tell the other girl?
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Idk why in situations like this y’all don’t just reach out to the girl with screenshots/video of the proof then block them both. You did your due diligence and was honest, she can either believe it or not, and you’re done with both people forever
Fool me once … you knew what he was like , telling her will only make you feel less foolish not help her that much .
Ma’am, you’re better than this drama-llama. Let it go and never talk to him again. She’ll find out soon enough what kind of cad she’s dating.
You used him just as much as he used you. He told you he was still very attracted to you after all this time, you said ditto, so you hooked up without any further promises or expectations, although it was extremely rude and unclassy of him to ghost you afterwards.
Are you mostly upset that he took this other woman to Mexico, instead of you? Or that he arranged your hookup without bothering to mention that he was dating someone else, and seriously enough that they were planning a trip together?
If they had not agreed to be in a committed relationship prior to this trip, then he wasn’t cheating when the two of you hooked up. Maybe he wanted one last fling with you, which I assume you both enjoyed, before settling down and agreeing to be in an exclusive relationship with this other woman. For all you know, his now-GF hooked up with her favorite fling – or several – one last time prior to the trip as well.
Personally I would let this go. All you really know is what you’ve been able to sleuth out, I assume by snooping your fling’s socials, and the way they manage their new relationship is really none of your business. If he’s going to cheat on her – if in fact he WAS cheating on her when he hooked up with you – I doubt it will be the only time it ever happens, and soon enough she’ll be able to figure it out for herself.