My ldr gf had dumped me. We loved each other( she said it’s impossible to ever get back).
Around 3 weeks after that I kissed a girl ( we met and wanted it to be extremely casual, both had gotten out of a long term relationship). But it felt bad so we never met again.
Around 4 weeks after that I patched up with gf as she wanted to( I definitely did too from day 1, was pathetic without her). I told her that I had talked to an exe after the break-up. It was a big issue for us. I apologized and she told me that it’s sort of my last chance.
Now I am confused if I should tell her about the kiss or not. I fear this might be our end and I would crumble apart if she left. I’ve never ever cheated on her, won’t even think of. I really love her and was trying to move on. So, I need your thoughts and advice.
TL;DR: I feel that she deserves to know for us to have something meaningful. But it would just kill me if she left again. I need your thoughts and advice.
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You were broken up. You absolutely do not need to disclose anything you did while you were broken up.
If she’s going to make a federal case out of you “talking” to an ex while you were BROKEN UP, you can bet she’s going to have an issue with you having any kind contact with anyone while you were BROKEN UP.
So the question is do you want to take your poison now or later?
She dumped you, told you there was no way she was getting back with you, then came running back?
Either she realised her fantasy about everyone wanting to date her was false, she realised you’re better than whatever side guy she wanted to test out, or she realised she’s never going to find someone as good as you.
So either she is dating you because she can’t do any better or she knows you’re too good for her.
Either way she’s clearly willing to discard you without thought and you shouldn’t waste your time with her.
You also can do whatever the f you want when you’re broken up. If she has a problem with that she shouldn’t have broken up with you
You don’t owe anything on that front. From the sounds of it, there’s a power imbalance in the relationship. Keeping what happened outside of the relationship personal is a healthy boundary.
Bro, there is a high chance that she might have done more than kissing during the break up period as she was the one who initiated the break up when she was long distance. This looks and sounds like a strategic break up from her side when she might have wanted to explore with some other dude and didn’t like what she found after they got close and wanted to come back to you. So, if you are okay with this and want to rebuild with her, I don’t think there is any reason why you should tell about the kiss or anything else you did during the break.
Tell her you kissed the girl and end the relationship. You’re wasting your time dating long distance.