Here’s the story. The other day my son’s classmate had a birthday party. I accompanied him to the party. My son gave his friend a gift, and I decided to give his mother flowers in honor of the holiday.
And then I caught a judgmental look from her husband.
And here I have a question, whether I acted appropriately and whether it is necessary to give flowers to women, even if they are practically unknown to you, but there is an occasion.
On the one hand, I believe that I did the right thing, so I did it from the soul and without any intent and no one can prevent me from doing the right thing.
On the other hand, this same woman may have problems with her husband in the evening and I am the reason.
How’s that for a dilemma? What are your thoughts?
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The only women I give flowers to is my mother and my partner.
In your situation, I would grab some wine for the husband.
Seems a little odd to give the mother flowers for her son’s birthday. I’d say the husband had an understandable reaction. Depends on the culture though I guess.
Dude. Don’t give flowers to women unless they’re family, and S/O, or kids. I’d give you a look, too. I give my girl flowers. Not you or any other guy.
As a dude you never give another mans women flowers, your wife could give her flowers as a joint thing.
It doesnt matter how you felt in your soul, its like buying drinks for a girl at a bar who is with a man.
Personally, I think you acted inappropriately. You shouldn’t give flowers to another man’s wife, especially if you have no pre-existing relationship with them. I don’t think the occasion warrants you going out on this limb.
You made a mistake in saying they were for the mom. What you should have done was bring them in a vase and say it was for the house.
That would still be an unusual gesture but that way it would be about the family/home/holiday and not for a singled out person with percieved romantic intent.
Wine for the HOME.
My wife hates getting flowers. Says it is like giving someone a job to do, keeping them alive for a time in a vase somewhere. I accepted this and invested the savings from not doing that over the years. All good!
Best to just ask.
As a married guy, I thought it was a nice gesture and would have never given it a second thought o if someone did this for my wife. Apparently I’m in the minority here.
What you did is weird as fuck, not going to lie
Part of the issue is that you upstaged your son and their daughter. If your gift was more flashy or expensive than the gift your son gave, that’s 100% the case.
It also would have been so much more considerate if the gift came from your son rather than you. Again, that gift should not upstage the daughter’s gift. For example, if he gave a dozen flowers to the daughter, he could have given 3 to the mother. Something along those lines would have melted hearts.
You’re at the age when you need to be in the background for some of the big events in your children’s lives. Let it be about them and not you.
It is culture specific.
You gave flowers to a married woman whom you barely know…. because it was their her son’s birthday? Like… what?
> On the one hand, I believe that I did the right thing, so I did it from the soul and without any intent and no one can prevent me from doing the right thing.
Dude, you did the wrong thing. You did a wrong creepy thing.