I’ve been dating this girl for four months and I made her my GF this weekend. She met my older sister and they got along. My sis was saying how she was looking forward to all of us doing stuff together.
I showed my mom a picture of her and she took my phone, zoomed in on her face and started getting tears in her eyes. We’re Hispanic and there’s strong classism, she referred to her as one of the lower class people where we’re from (nicely put on my end, she went in more)
The girl herself is a nurse and I’ve been having a great time with her. She’s attractive, goes to the gym regularly, we have a bunch of similar interests. My mom just sees her as low class.
Really at a loss of words for this. I like the girl a lot. We’re still getting to know each other. I know my parents won’t make this easy. Family is big to me. Anyone else been in similar shoes?
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She’s trying to manipulate you by crying. Be with who you are happy with.
You have to stand up for your girlfriend. Or don’t bother dating her at all. Why does your mother think she is lower class? It is facial features? Skin tone? The way she dresses? Just a vibe?
Unless you are going to defend her 110% of the time & shut down any negative comments your parents make, I would take some time to think about what you want in life.
She sounds like an amazing woman. A total freaking catch dude. I really hope your mom is not serious. My family was like this as well. Now, they just want me to settle down but I’m never gonna date again lmao.
I would stress to your parents that you will NOT tolerate any disrespect going forward & that you are working towards a serious, end game relationship.
Wishing you the best 🙏🏽
What makes her “low class”?
Damn I am at a loss of words. Looking at how you describe your mums reaction I have to say that her world views are the only thing “low class” in this whole story.
You dating your mom or this woman? Your mom will get over it, or not, its your life brother
Which country do you guys live? For being in a lower class or what is a matter
Post a pic of your mom and we’ll assume her class
Your mom is manipulative and shitty.
Stand up for your girlfriend now before your mom starts acting foolish… It’s inevitable these kinds of moms almost always do things to try and ruin their kids relationships and sometimes it gets dangerous (not saying your mom is violent, just that it happens) Do not let her bully you into being with who she wants. It’s your heart that matters and your girlfriends… Protect her heart, don’t let your mother hurt her. And don’t do the thing some people do where you confront your mother in private, if she hurts her publicly call her out publicly. If she is disrespectful she deserves the same amount of disrespect.
I’m curious WHY mom is crying about it. Like, is she imagining some implication of future hardship for you both or something?
If so, I would calmly but firmly remind her that she raised you to surround yourself with wonderful people and that your new girlfriend is exactly that. She also raised you to respect women, and you plan to continue doing so with the person that makes you happy. Thirdly, let her know that you won’t tolerate your gf being put in harms way if this is an outlook your mom maintains. She should trust you and find a way through whatever this is triggering in her so that she can be a full and complete part of your life.
Kya hi class rehgyi hai be aaj kal ke jmaane mein!! Bc khud ke khaandaan konsa tees maar khaan hai aaj ke tym mein! Btayioo koi acha kmaa hai ra and etiquette hai toh theek hai bhai !! Haan agr basic sense nahi hai partner mein toh aunty theek hai!!! Bc tu meet-up krva ta phley bsdk ne photo dikhayi
Ethnic moms are dramatic AF bro. When I showed my mom a pic of my Latina gf at the time, she was on the verge of tears (I’m Asian, super conservative parents). Just live your life bro, my experience has been that traditional parents will want you to follow expectations at the cost of your own happiness. Don’t let it happen to you
Do NOT bring home this girl to your mother if you aren’t ready to confront your mother beforehand. This is disgusting behavior from a grown woman towards another grown woman. Unfortunately, it sounds like your mother is jealous you found a girlfriend that everyone already likes.
Don’t be the mamas boy that your girlfriend talks about if she decides to leave because you chose to date your mother instead. And judging that your girlfriend is 30, I assume you’re around the same age? Stand up bro.
Consider going low contact with your mother.