Have any of you had what you do taken for granted or criticised, only to witness a man do the same or less and have everyone sing his praises for it?
So my grandparents have got to a stage where they require care, they refuse to hire a carer so my mum has taken up that responsibility , worth noting that my mum’s also my carer.
So around a month of my mum doing pretty much everything for them to a point she seems burnt out, including spending 4hrs cleaning their house one day and no thanks from them, my brother who’s never done any housework in his life decides to spend a couple nights a week there and does a tiny amount of tidying up and my gran won’t stop singing his praises and thanking him.
One thing my grandad said that really illustrates how women are taken for granted happened when my gran needed taking to a hospital appointment and my mum was ill, after suggesting to my grandad that he’d b best asking another relative to take her, my grandad said ‘I can’t do that because you’re her daughter, so it’s your duty’, my mum sadly ended up taking her to that appointment.
It’s just incredibly frustrating to witness all the work my mum’s done for them without so much as a thanks, have my brother do barely anything in comparison and be praised to the hilt for it.
Also as their granddaughter I can make the slightest suggestion to them and get completely ignored, only to have my brother make the same suggestion on a later date and it gets taken seriously and acted on.
My brother still lives at home with me and my mum, he’s been calling us too sensitive, dramatic and saying we over complicate things for asking him to do a little housework and often makes misogynistic jokes, so to see my grandparents praising him to the hilt for the slightest thing has been enraging to say the least.
To make matters worse I told my brother that years of being called too sensitive, dramatic and childish has made me not want to spend time with him, and that I can’t just play happy families and act like those years never happened, he called me the next day to tell me how what I said wasn’t on, was nasty and hurt his feelings, only for him to accuse me of turning the tables’ as usual’ for pointing out all the times he’s upset me and never apologised once.
Interested to hear about other’s similar experiences.