Sick of my parents’ “purity” culture (and then demanding I give them grandkids.)

Basically all my life, I have been a good kid. Shy, meek, kinda awkward, but also kinda smart, doing well at school and, overall, my parents were mostly proud of me. I did not have too many close friends, but I did have lots of hobbies, after-school activities and so on. I did not even mind having only a handful of friends around me, as I did have quite a bit of socialization at school and after school.

Only recently, though, it hit me that I never have been invited to a birthday party, or a sleepover, or a weekend-long hangout, and I wasn’t sure why. I don’t think I am unlikable so that I wouldn’t get invited to anything, but… recently, I probably figured where the issue is. And that issue is… you guessed it, my parents.

I love them and all, but… only now do I realize they have been a bit overbearing, and perhaps a bit overprotective, and definitely too obsessed with “purity,” so to speak. When I (female) mentioned I made a male friend, my mother would freak out a bit and say I should be careful around boys. I had no idea why, we were just friends? And kids? Why should I be on guard near my friends?

Eventually, that paranoia turned to occasional teasing about “when will your friend become a boyfriend?” As well as “well-meant” advice about “not staying in the same room as the opposite gender, or else something might happen!” Again, what the heck should happen, mom?! I have no clue! Will we play too hard, talk too much, eat too many potato chips…?!
Again, only now do I realize she probably meant well and was hinting on me getting pregnant when in one room with a boy, but… what the hell. Why would you say that to a literal child? And later, yes, teenager, but still basically a child?

Needless to say, that constant teasing, worrying and poking into my relationships ended up preventing me from any party, sleepover or anything like that, because I do not believe I would be able to enjoy it, being constantly on edge, not to mention having to endure lots of “friendly teasing” after.

Now that I am an adult, a functional, working, self-sufficient adult, guess what? I am still unable to bring myself to let loose at a party, and I tend to drink and relax only until about ten or eleven in the evening, midnight at most, before going home and to bed. I am conditioned to think something bad might happen, even if I am with my (both male and female) friends who I trust and know are good and would never hurt me.

And, here’s the kicker – now the comments from my mother turned from “Don’t stay in the same room as a boy, or something will happen!” to “you are all grown up, when will you give me grandchildren?”
I don’t know, mom, why am I unable to give you grandchildren? Maybe because I am constantly on edge, not to mention annoyed by the fact I should suddenly change from a demure, untouched maiden into a lustful woman that just wants to breed and make lots of children?

Give me a break.
Or, better yet, go adopt a kid, if you want so much to take care of another kid.

TLDR: I got constantly teased about making friends with the opposite gender, now am unable to enjoy parties and/or sleepovers, as well as have no desire whatsoever to suddenly switch to want to have kids (after getting constantly warned about getting pregnant as a kid/teen.)