Is it one of the first things you notice or is it something you just happen to see after talking to them for a bit and then say to yourself “oh crap, he’s taken!”
Is it one of the first things you notice or is it something you just happen to see after talking to them for a bit and then say to yourself “oh crap, he’s taken!”
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If I find him physically attractive, immediately.
If I don’t initially find them attractive, but they start flirting, I look for a ring to gauge how I should play defense.
I barely pay attention to them to even notice they’re flirting tbh
One of the first things I notice.
It’s the first thing I look for actually!
If a man is being creepy I will look for a ring and feel so sorry for his wife. Other than that, no. I’m very turned off from men
Never. I’m not looking at mens hands. I usually find out if they are married only if they tell me.
Edit: better to pay attention to how men treat you vs. what they are wearing. Lots of married men cheat.
Immediately and if no ring I look for a tan line on the ring finger.
Too often
Immediately
I don’t think I really actively look. I notice often just because I find rings noticeable, so I passively clock them on men I’m meeting for the first time. I’ve been out of the dating market a couple decades and haven’t been hit on by a guy in about as long, so whether a guy is married or not isn’t particularly on my radar.
But no ring doesn’t mean “available” so no I don’t check.. if I’m interest I’ll gauge by talking. They might be in a long term relationship.
never, because i wear a ring to keep people off of me and to be treated respectfully without question when i go places. so i already don’t see it as a clear signifier.
behavior is more reliable, and forcing people to wait years is better, lol. flies fall off by themselves.
I don’;t pay attention to rings because I’m no longer “looking” for guys. If I find myself attracted to someone that I met, I immediately ask if they are seeing anyone, that includes wives of course.
i forget it’s even a thing for an embarrassing majority of my adult life! i myself have never been married nor was my mother, and i just didn’t know many married folks, so wedding rings as an everyday object isn’t salient in my mind unless it’s pointed out by someone for some reason. i know, i’m weird.
i have checked, occasionally, but i guess i just am too trusting and generally assume the other party is either single or nonmonogamous and then depending on that is a whole different conversation to be had either way.
I only broke up with my boyfriend last week. And I’m already finding myself doing it. Need to make sure I don’t fixate on being single but now I’m older (41), I find it hard. Thought I’d be married or in a happy, secure relationship by now!
I live in LA. Almost no 30 year old man out here is married
I don’t notice rings on men or women. It just is never a thought in my head. I worked at a bridal shop and never noticed engagement rings. I assume people are faithful
Not single but I only look when I know it should be there because it’s hilarious how many married men I know who take pictures without their ring. For seemingly no obvious reason.
Makes you wonder who they don’t want knowing they’re married when the rest of us already know. 🤷♀️
(Yes, I have asked them and some admit it’s because they send pics to humans they don’t want to know they’re married others have somewhat legit excuses.)
never because people won’t even wear their ring in the first place
there’s so many married couples who didnt even have a ceremony
Literally never?
But I’m not attracted to people I don’t know, and nobody flirts with me, so it’s just not relevant.
Oh wow I guess never? Lol there’s this guy at work I kind of like but we’re just acquaintances. It never occurred to me to look for a ring 😂 I’m so far removed from the dating scene
I have never once thought about this. A lack of ring is not a quick indication of anything. Plenty of people are in long term relationships and not married.
Never. It often is off anyway… Or not married but in a long relationship.
I never did when I was single. My parents have been married for 50 years and have never even had wedding rings, so I guess I never got the idea in my head that it meant anything to go without one. Now that I’m married, I wear my ring about 10% of the time and my husband never wears his. And of course, lots of people are “taken” without being married.
Very rarely. Where I live, it’s very common to live with a partner for years without getting married, so the absence of a ring doesn’t tell me that much about their relationship status.
Literally never.
“Single” does not mean “looking for a relationship.” And absence of a ring doesn’t mean he’s single. Or into women. I dislike the idea of treating random people as “prospects”, it feels very inauthentic to me.
I’ll also remind you that not everyone is straight. Some of us on this sub are bi or gay and are getting tired of heteronormative question wording.
When they annoy me and I wonder if some poor soul is putting up with his shit at home like I am at work.
I never notice.
Pretty much all the time, but I do it with women too. It’s less a matter of whether or not I’d be potentially interested in them, and just my curiousity and nosiness 😂
Never
I always check if Im interested or he starts flirting with me, or I notice other signs if interest (staring, hovering etc). In the absence of a ring I look for the ring indentation (which can last up to a year after the ring is removed). If I see no ring or indentations that means to me that he hasn’t worn a ring in at least a year. But that doesn’t necessarily mean he’s single, but often it does mean he’s unmarried or divorced. Usually small talk gives more Info. I find men that are happily coupled and not shady will mention their partner almost immediately when we start chatting.
Zero times. Wedding rings aren’t even really a thing in my culture.
I notice any jewelry just because I like jewelry.