I understand i should leave it to her mom to choose that, but her mom does not care about her at all. It makes me sad too…I was wondering if it would be ok for her age?…kinda of scared though. I looked into the skin creams but they all have lots of cancer causing chemicals. and i also dont want her to think shes ugly with or without the cream. iv never really cared about how i look because i have good hygiene and all thats matters as far as looks. I understand girls care more about how they look more than men but im not girl so i dont understand that kinda of stuff. could a mom or woman help in this?
Skincare advice for my 14 year old younger sister. She wants to wear skin white-ing cream. (older brother here)
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I didn’t start skincare till I was 17 year Olds
And I person don’t use skin white-ing cream at all .
To be honest unless you have get pimples
You would just really need a basic skincare
I would recommend
Face wash
Toner
Moisturiser
And maybe a
Facial mist
It really just depends on what tape her skin is
If you what to message me I could shear a few products I use that would get gentle on her skin
https://youtu.be/X4jTr3pIY7Y?si=IqThVgBlRpVS-ZiY
Show her this. Not only does fairness cream contain unsafe ingredients, it doesnt actually work. The most that it’s going to do is take her money. The beauty industry preys on people’s insecurities.
Tell her that she’s beautiful as she is and that the people who endorse these creams dont actually use them. If she wants some basic products like cleanser or moisturizer, that’s fine. But don’t let her fall into the trap of thinking that photoshopped influencers and celebrities are real.
I’d talk to her about the risk of cancer and encourage her to get paler using sunscreen instead of
Hey. 35 yo mom here of a 16 yo daughter. I am a white woman so my understanding of whitening cream is limited. That said I would say no. 1) there are harmful chemicals 2) she doesn’t need to be light or lighter or white to be absolutely stunning. We need to build up our dark skin girls. They are gorgeous.
If she is struggling with her skin here is what I would recommend
1 an oil cleanser
2) a clarifying cleanser
3) a toner
4) a moisturizer
5) sunscreen.
Feel free to reach out for brand recommendations or help with any other feminine issues you’re assisting her with.
Ask r/beauty to chime in!
Just read an article yesterday about the increase in skin cancer to women in Africa due to these.
I think , as a woman and a mum, taking care of your skin is very important even from young age. But at her age, I would concentrate more on basics. Washing, moisturising and protecting. And wear sun screen. What you eat is very important too. So lots of vegs and fruits. No point in spending a lot of money on expensive stuff if you are not doing the basic skincare.
Those skin whitening creams are dangerous and unhealthy. Instead, help her develop a healthy body image around her darker skin. I’m pale as all get out and I wish I could wear the super vibrant pinks, blues, and yellows that look so amazing on darker skin. Dark skin is just as beautiful as pale, and when she’s older she may regret impulsive decisions made at 14 to change her body.
Encourage her to use pretty hats instead and that she’s beautiful as she is.
I just watched a movie about a girl who got cancer from bleaching/whitening creams. It’s not winning any Oscars but I liked it (as a white girl) and imagine it would obviously be more impactful for a WOC.
I think it was called Skinned
This is incredibly hard because insecurity about your looks just comes with her age, & most people (especially women) struggle with it for a minimum of a decade. I would tell her about how harmful it is, show her pictures of people who have actually used these products, & see what you can do to help promote self love, & confidence. Something like makeup might help, it’s more of a bandaid imo, but if it can make her feel beautiful enough to stop hating her skin, then that’s a win, & not a bad starting place. I would also suggest showing her images of beautiful women that have a similar or darker skin tone than her to hopefully help her understand that there is nothing wrong with her skin color