What I mean is: did you notice strangers in the street walking around you instead of through you; looking at you admiringly in the street or in public; people who work in shops/restaurants being friendlier? Wondering if I am imagining it. Same goes for guys who lost weight I suppose.
Skinny guys who gained weight, did you suddenly become “visible”?
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I was a skinny kid, then became average weight. Didn’t see any difference.
What made the difference was me being more social, caring about my looks, etc.
Nope I’m still skinny as fuck and can’t gain anything been trying for years đ
Your self-esteem has increased. That’s why you feel seen. Embrace it.
Yes, other men no longer casually disrespect me, and my first date after gaining weight was the first date I’d ever been on where the woman acted like she actually wanted to be on a date with me.
Yes. I went from a pretty skinny 5â9-125lbs to 5â9-165lbs. Almost all of it was muscle. Itâs not uncommon for me to get compliments now. It would have been extremely rare back then.
I lost a significant amount of weight, 100lbs. After loosing the weight, I was hired more for my freelance job, people actually took the time to converse with me when I would go out. Mind you I wasnât super fit, thin fat?? 260+lbs>167lbs at 5â7â.
But it was also the self-confidence boost. You stop noticing how the world reacts to you, you just start to exist.
I smiled a lot more and usually introduced myself first rather than doing the “wait for them to talk to me first” thing i used to do in the past
I went from 6’6 165 lbs to 6’8 235lbs in a short time at 21. It was transformative, I looked like an NFL tightend, I got positive looks from attractive women and jealous looks from guys. I wished I was single, my wife and I would wrestle, and she could always get me to submit before, but after, my strength made it so she couldn’t do anything. I worked with young beautiful women and was fighting them off with a stick.
Eat lots of protein and lift heavy weight. That what worked for me.
After our eventual divorce, I found women appreciate a man with good proportions. And give heartily.
Yep, lost 70lbs. When you are obese people don’t see you. When you are in good shape, they hold eye contact. It’s kind of creepy actually after being invisible for so long.
I went from 135 to 195 over a few years of lifting weights and trying to put on weight (and stopped drinking and partying every day). People respect me more, value my opinion more, and are generally friendlier to my now. And Iâm not violent or mean at all. If anything I laugh and joke about myself all the time. But I think when you gain confidence without gaining an ego, you YOURSELF treat yourself different as well.
Honestly not sure. I went from about 150 to 170-175. not a huge difference. I put it on as muscle after finally deciding to put the work into it. People sometimes remark about it but it wasn’t having much difficulty with dating before it.
Nope, not in the slightest
I only have the mirror experience. I went from 215ish to now closer to 160. I noticed a change when I got to around 185, and some improvement again around 170. Now it seems like continued very slight improvement, but now I’m also shifting to working on building muscle. I’ll be curious if bulking a bit and then cutting again sees continued improvement, so I suppose some intentional weight gain is in my future to build muscle.
Maybe a little. A Big difference? No not really. By working out, getting rid of acne, going from like 6’2 190lbs to 230lbs. There’s definitely a mostly postiive difference in how im treated vs when i was really skinny. I find less people try and disrespect me straight to my face now for sure.
Yep this definitely helped. I was always skinny at 150 pounds for most of my life. Over the last few years I was able to put on some muscle after working out a lot and got to 180 pounds. People look at me differently in general and I’ve noticed people being nicer or trying to check me out quickly.
The funny part is a lot of people whom I’ve known for years now forget that I was super skinny and now just remember me always being like this until I remind them and show them a photo. I guess people have recently bias and are quick to forget.
At one point I had such a negative appetite caused by the medication I take that made me underweight, you could see the bones in my chest and my face was very pale. Itâs been at least a decade since then, I think the only one who pointed it out was my mom? Though Tbf, I didnât really have friends at the time
Yes, but it wasnât the only change being made so I am left wondering what actually caused the noticing.
I’m confused by this post. Is op saying that by being skinny guys are invisible?
This isnât a matter of being skinny. I lost a little over 40 pounds in 8 months or so due to stress and depression. I dropped down to 119lbs.
What youâre describing isnât a matter of gaining weight or being skinny. This is a matter of personal confidence and how you carry yourself. Even at 119lbs, I turned my confidence back around and pulled myself out of crippling depression.
I was âseenâ by people once again. Itâs an all around matter of confidence.
I’m no bodybuilder but I did noticeably gain muscle in college and afterwards. People aren’t stopping me in the street but I’ve had much better luck with dating.
I just wanna put here that skinny guys are my type